Originally Posted by
HereticWacey
Around the farms where I live, everyone helps each other out with the unspoken, soft rule, that eventually they will return the favour. For example, I help bring their heifers in for calfing (a big chore), then they will have us over for a big dinner sometime, and maybe pick up my vehicle tires or lend gasoline.
I just couldn't for the life of me understand how a sociotype could be disappearing, surely a cognition style would survive momentary fluctuations in society values? There are almost 8 billion people on the planet, that's a lot of introverted feeling out there. I think Fi is everywhere, it's so obvious, in work forces, in schools, in clubs, everywhere? If you are doing a technical job, like working as a mechanic, then at times, one would need to be more logical and methodic, but surely at lunch break an Fi- valuer would have his or her moment? Would not coworkers need to cooperate, understand one another? Would not part of understanding one another be about getting to know each other, such as their family, their children, what they think of such and such and so and so? Would not someone who shares their inner world, including logical thoughts, personal feelings, emotions be of great value and worth if they also performed their duties? In my own line of work, when all the "busy" work is done, do I not get a chance to discuss sentiments, convictions, thoughts on life situations, friends, family, ect? These people are their, if you know how to look. Just open yourself up to love. You are so guarded I think.
On this very site can Fi not be going on in the back ground, behind all the Ti/Te/Fe/Se/Si/ Trolling that you are seeing K.C.? Do you really think that an Fi-ego would be that obvious?
In regards to this idea of having a bread winner for yourself and in return offering new ideas ect. I think that frankly a SLI would start to feel pretty resentful after having to do all the work. I realize it's tough making a living and supporting yourself, but I think it is un realistic to believe that someone else out there who will do it for you. Does not God help those who help himself? I was there, I thought screw it I just can't make it on my own. A decade later, and I'm still here. It's funny I even made a thread about it years ago, "I am not helpless….."
I dated an illusionary partner for years, so I could certainly empathize with being surrounded by people who value something and are in many ways on a different wave length, it can be so disheartening, but only in small increments, like a drop of water in a cave, over centuries, erodes the earth below it, so to does being around people that do not suit your nature erode your sense of self.