What's interesting about (semi)duality is that since one's role function is the dual's ignoring, the more of a people pleaser you are, the more annoying you becoming to your duals.

Also I noticed that resolved conflicts is what creates attraction between duals. The easiness is rarely a source of admiration, unless you spend a lot of time and then lose it, which creates tension.

Tension and polarization is what creates excitement and attraction between people. Being your authentic self (especially focusing on both ego functions simultaneously, something you learn by interacting with duals) creates natural tension, since it's the opposite what your dual would naturally think/act, even though complementary.

The more you take life seriously, and accept that some (if not most) people may not like you for you being you and going for what you want, the more you'll attract duals..
Maybe that's a nature's mechanism for one's life preservation, since duality is ideal for the hardships of life