Very, very true. Especially the part in bold. And I definitely notice those differences between my sister (vampira) and I, which is why sometimes I wonder if she isn't an extrovert afterall since she has a more external focus, compared to me, of course. It's true that the caregiver v. victim thing is telling, the focus is completely different. One being more internal than the other.
For instance, my sister sees me as self-centered because I'm more internally driven. From her perspective, I don't consider others as much as I should. Her words: "I don't understand how you can be gone from reality so much. It's annoying sometimes. You'll just sit there in your own little world and forget that you live in society." She often feels ignored by me. Her focus is on the here and now, on her feelings surrounding what's going on around her at the moment. On the other hand, I don't understand how she can see things so simplistically and passively. SEIs, to me, are more easily influenced because they lack the deep (sometimes dark) Beta passion. In my experience, they value external emotional comfort over ideals. With this focus, they are not likely to develop very strong-held ideals, to the point of being willing to die for them. It's not worth it to them. Present comfort and being content is more important to them. This is a pretty obvious contrast between the two of us. I get these extremely strong impulses to defend some ideal against all odds. No matter what. Life or death. It's hard to describe the feeling associated with this, but it is very fulfilling. It's when I feel most alive. It doesn't have to be anything huge either, it's almost like an inborn impulse I have. She's not this way. Taking it that far simply isn't worth it to her. It gives her no sense of fulfillment because it interferes with her more simplistic (to me!), sense of happiness. So yeah, I see her as superficial and apathetic and she sees me as psychotic
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