Originally Posted by
MissDucki
Alright, I am going to bring it back on topic a bit.
I kinda want to discuss my victim friend in comparison. I have a close LIE-Ni friend and we talk about love and romance a lot. One thing she always discusses about is that she needs a guy who is not afraid to be direct with her and feel that chemistry and that bit of aggression. I have noticed she responds well to Se men from both Beta and Gamma types. She always affirms that she needs a strong man and she really enjoys men who demonstrate strong masculine protective traits. She seemed to have run into a caregiver recently and while she liked him initially, it fizzled quite quickly as she found him too polite and distant. In relationships, she tends to be more of a spiritual caregiver and we do discuss these aspects from time to times. I always find this interesting cause I am the opposite.
I don't like men who are too aggressive with me. While I do find it attractive when a man shows interest in me directly and feels protective over me, I can't have it too fast as her. She seems to need that shakeup more then I do. We always come back to the topic that she needs a very straightforward and aggressive dude that is not afraid to go after her and is certain. I need a more of a polite and slightly distant dude who is certain but is not afraid to take his time and be slow with me.
Another thing I want to mention, A lot of male aggressors friends/coworker have assumed that I am weak and feel the need to take me under their wing. I don't know if it's cause I come across cute, naive, and innocent but, I find it strange. Don't get me wrong, I want to feel protected and it is my number one need in a partner. Just, with Aggressor men, they kinda assume that I am weak and need to be taken care of and protected because of it. I had a dope SLE coworker that was my favorite and he was older then me. He was like an older brother and we chat from time to time. The funny thing I noticed at work is that he would get overly surprised when I showed attributes that I can stand on my own too feet and that I wasn't as innocence as he once thought. The other SLE that I knew don't seem to know how to take it either it seems.
Just I find the aggressor style a little strange in their reasoning behind the need to protect me. I want to be protected cause a guy values me and finds me special and just not because I come across as seemingly weak. I can be wrong, Aggressors, please feel free to critique me if your reasoning and attraction is different. Just, that is how I viewed it coming from a caregiver perspective.