@
End, I've thought about this, but I'm reluctant to just tell her that she's broken and give her a book on what she should do to fix herself.
I have a real reluctance to trying to "fix" people. It immediately places me in a superior, judging position to her, and while I think her attachment issues will cause her to miss out on a lot of good guys, she might think she's perfectly fine the way she is.
This is why I liked @
Baqer's approach of asking her questions about whether she's satisfied with her life or not. If she says Yes, then there's nothing I can do. If she thinks she could be doing better, then I can suggest a possible remedy.