Quote Originally Posted by COMFINED View Post
I don't like big fights--doesn't mean I haven't been in some. If the Gottman marriage research is correct (about "emotional flooding"), a couple could sound very argumentative and it wouldn't be a big deal, so long as they were not getting physiologically worked up. And a couple could seem fairly calm or restrained but be seriously hurting each other all the same.
Very true and it often works out better when both members are conflict avoidant, volatile, or in the middle rather than an avoidant paired with a volatile person.

I haven't had too much experience with conflict with LIEs but I think the biggest thing I get annoyed about with the ones I have met is their large egos and difficulty admitting when they are wrong.