The principle difference lies in that caregivers are active, while victims are passive. What is not correct to think someone of them suffers from such states.
> It is something I rather not associate with myself.
Ni types like being controlled and inspired by external Se, as they feel the lack of own will in themselves. As this relates mostly to unconscious, so people may don't notice this well.
Like T types generally underestimate the need of relations, emotions of other people to them and the importance of emotions of near people, - they just feel badly like without reasons, and accidently (for them) become happier when get the mentioned.
> Maybe it is time to rename "romance styles"
sure. Si valued and Se valued "romance styles": active and passive.
but this is longer
The more important would be the renaming of intertype relations to neutral notations (like is "ILE" instead of schiz "Don Quixote"). As it's core theory.
sometime I have the impression he just trolls you by calling as ESE
and you stablely react in the needed way, like you strangely care
(your possible quasi-identity may express in thinking bad about mental abbilities of each other)