It may seem counterintuitive, but an LII MUST initiate the relationship, even if it takes several weeks or months. Of course, the question is kinda loaded. I don't like to think of relationships as having a beginning or an end. It's very stressful to try and judge our
relationship with someone and it only makes us uneasy. It's very relieving to think of it in
terms. I feel more at ease around someone if their emotions are right in my face. Like the previous metaphor, if being in a social situation as an LII is like walking into a play that I haven't been casted in, then talking to an ESE is like someone running up to me with some cue cards and a comfy chair.
Ultimately, it's about control. If I ask a girl out, it's me who made the decision and if I screw it up or she doesn't like me, I can just say I should be more careful, or I should just be myself, etc. If I ask the girl it's because I'm interested in getting to know her.
If a girl asks me out I'll probably go along with it, but only to be nice and I probably wont be very interested. A long time ago in high school I went out with a girl that asked me. She was a total bitch (ESI in retrospect) and I just wasn't interested. After a few days I had a friend tell her I didn't want to go out anymore and she got really mad. Anyway, it's a bad idea to ask the LII out because he/she probably wont be interested. It's best to let things flow naturally, or somehow trick the LII into thinking it's not a date, or something like that. It's hard to explain, we are confusing people. Remember, we are passive to
so it might be the case that if you like an LII and hang around him/her for long enough and provide enough
and
it might just turn into a relationship on its own. Don't think in conventional terms. Touch is very important. If you touch the LII and it is well received... mission accomplished. I can either spaz and reel from an unwelcome touch, or melt into a pile of babbling goo from the right touch.
A great movie about an LII with lady trouble: "Lars and the Real Girl". It really parallels my own life in a way, even down to the way he doesn't like being touched, though I will say that I've never dated a mannequin.