Hey. It’s me back again. Yesterday I asked for typing advice on here- thanks to the help of the people on here I was able to narrow down my options to LII, IEI or SEI. SEI still seems like a viable option, i wanted to explain why and maybe you guys can help me to decide whether to eliminate it, or if SEI is actually a better fit and I should disregard IEI in favor of it. I promise I won’t keep spamming on here I just wanted to see if you guys could help me narrow it down some more.
I should mention I have been typed SEI by someone else in a voice call that lasted a little over an hour. Im inclined to be somewhat open to their judgement as a knowledgeable person, they’d been studying socionics for around three years and they were a lot older than me. However I do not feel they were very thorough. They typed me SEI because i like to cook, I like cozy vibes, I’m polite and lazy and don’t look for the meaning behind every single little thing. I could very well be SEI, but if i were I feel like the reasons would be more complex and deeper than this- a little less stereotypical, so I wanted to expand on that here. Later on, they also told me to consider LII. Im fairly sure on Ti & Fe use, so this post will mostly be talking about the distinction between N & S.
-Yeah, so cooking. I’m good at it, I enjoy it. I can’t taste nuances or subtleties in flavour and can’t concentrate on what Im eating and what it tastes like and such so I bombard the food I cook with intense spices for a strong sensory experience, in an attempt to ground myself and feel something in the real world because I feel so detached from it. I don’t forget to eat, but I won’t know Im hungry until my stomach starts to make noises.
-I have a low tolerance for sensory discomfort. It can make me spiral into a childish rage and frustration, I can’t deal with it. I won’t touch food ever because the feeling of grease or stickiness on my hands annoys me so much, when i sit next to someone and their leg touches mine i get super annoyed. This, to me at least seems like a strong argument for SEI.
-I turn to nostalgic childhood media for coziness and warmth to soothe my inner hectic-ness, rather than the environment. I frequently rewatch movies that I enjoyed as a child - given that I don’t remember too much about them as if I did that would be boring. I don’t experience nostalgia intensely, but rather as a brief pleasant feeling.
-As for meanings, I don’t constantly think about the symbolism or interpretation of everything, i don’t think or talk in metaphors because that would be pretentious. However, this doesn’t mean that I’m okay with surface level and mundane conversation. In conversations I like to go deeper, I like to dissect concepts in society with others if they are open to it. I like to talk about things with no basis in reality - who do you think you would’ve been if you were born in the 16th century? what would you do if you had a time machine? talking about potential scenarios of a dystopian society. I don’t like hearing about how someone’s day was unless something exciting happened to them because that’s just boring. I am also good at assigning meaning to art- art that simply looks pretty is all fine and dandy, I’d rather it had a meaning, one that wasn’t cliche. I think a lot about the artists intent and what they were trying to communicate, I find it fun to talk about what I think the meaning was. With my friends who are artists I often tell them the different interpretations of their work and how it could link into one big intent. I like to write poems, though I don’t know whether others would perceive them as surface level. I’m attracted to symbolism of death and such and couldn’t explain why.
-I can predict how certain people will react to the things i say, I have a good sense of how the relationships of the people around me will unfold. I know what to say to make the group laugh. Of course I can’t tell my friends I just know that they’ll break up with their boyfriends in a years time at the start of their relationships because they’d take it as pessimism or something, but oftentimes i’m right about these things, probably from observing past patterns. I like steering people towards their own future visions, I like to think of these visions together with them, all the routes they could go down. I feel like i understand people well. Because I daydream about my own personal, idealised future so often I’ve always been detached. I am incapable of being present, it’s boring for me to focus on the present when what’s coming next is more exciting. The future has never scared me, I look forward to it. I’ve always been criticised for my detachment- my parents and teachers would ask me why can’t you just focus, pay attention to the world around you et cetera. Im constantly bumping into things, have a bad sense of direction and spatial awareness and can’t shut my mind off enough to focus on the present.