Smilingeyes:
Originally Posted by
Sycophant
You think that is good? You should see the letters the man writes me.
What man? Are you sure it's safe to deal out your postal address to people you meet in the net?
Damn thread hijackings.
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Catholic Schoolboy:
PostPosted: Wed Mar 08, 2006 9:34 pm
I don't have the ability to stay within the bounds of a topic. It's like water, it moves.
Te descriptions would be great. I always thought that there should be a place with 16 type descriptions for each type, one written by every other type about the behavior and relationship with the type you are writing about. That would take forever though, and is not going to happen.
Arcanum:
PostPosted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 3:24 am
Originally Posted by
Sycophant
I don't have the ability to stay within the bounds of a topic. It's like water, it moves.
Te descriptions would be great. I always thought that there should be a place with 16 type descriptions for each type, one written by every other type about the behavior and relationship with the type you are writing about. That would take forever though, and is not going to happen.
Te descriptions are insightful... What you said is something I was thinking about, except the part where every type writes. Actually, it would be even better... That's a great idea. I started somewhat in the Delta section with a crude ESTJ description. With more experience, I would not mind writing descriptions at all.
Sorry, I'm derailing the thread... continue
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Smilingeyes:
PostPosted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 1:27 pmThis person is one of the most difficult one's to handle correctly. He's your illusionary partner, the ISTj.
When you encounter him, the important thing is who is in control. There are no clear rules for this that you might understand, but you will see it from his behaviour. If he's confident, proactive and feels in charge he will operate with you in a manner he feels is correct, standard and efficient. If what you receive from him in this manner is what you wanted or close enough, you should be happy and content. You can survive and even flourish in these circumstances even if this guy is your boss. If the results are not satisfactory, you should not complain about the person responsible but of the results themselves. It is not "correct" in his mind to listen to complaints from people of lower rank but on the other hand it is not "correct" to let yourself make mistakes.
If you are a colleague and technically on the same level as he is, you are likely considered of lower rank, though proven capability, superior knowledge or longer work experience might make him consider you a superior.
The situation is different if you find the ISTj as your employee or meet him on what he feels unfamiliar ground. This kind of strange situation might make him panic in a very slight way. He will act hurried and his actions will lack meaning. This is the only situation ever in which you will find him receptive to you. Restore his faith. Tell him that everything will be fine, then take charge actively. He will feel very positive about you. If this small panic is the kind of reaction the ISTj tends to have to negative situations, you should consider yourself very lucky. You will find his presence very useful.
The other kind of reaction that the ISTj might have to an unfamiliar situation is brooding. He might retreat further into his mind, become inactive or start to behave in a ritualistic manner. Typically he might make absurd, passionate complaints and / or try to use the rules he's accustomed to in a situation in which they do not fit. He will try to motivate people around him but do it in a negative way. If this is the kind of behaviour you run into, there's not much you can do. You can passively watch and pity or you can pull rank and use whatever forceful methods you have available to get rid of him.
On a social level there is some disagreement on the correct procedure. Some believe that the ISTj is most wonderful social company for his illusionary partner. It's certainly something you can try out.
The reason why acts as he does is that he feels he is compelled to control himself and he feels happiness at his ability to do so. This is his greatest motivation and something for you to remember if not understand.
Your agenda: Take the money and run. You will never ever understand this person, don't even try to.
Tactical tips: Never elevate him to a very high position, it's better to reward him with concrete one-shot bonuses.
Keep him busy and if you can manage scared, that's good too.
Mental note: Never act in anger in your contacts with him. It's only business.
Watch out: This person's presence will make you passive and complacent. Even if you find the man pleasant, you should stay separate from him when in work environment. Otherwise it will hurt your actions.
You might at times completely forget his presence or the amount of power he wields over his environment. Watch your step.
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science as magic:
PostPosted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 2:51 pm
I know these are Te descriptions but can we include interaction outside of the officeplace?
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Smilingeyes
PostPosted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 3:24 pm
Yes, you can
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Oh you'd like ME to do that? Shocked
I'm including mostly things that I believe would be useful. I've also started this from description of types that Te-Ni's would not normally have social relations ie. the difficult relationships. As one normally tends to avoid them, one usually encounters them where one can't choose one's company, this usually happens inside an organization with a ready power structure such as an association, a workplace or a family.
There's also a supposition in this thread that the person reading the material actually has a purpose for interacting with these people. The information tries to help find a good way to achieve this purpose whatever it may be. It's a result-oriented view of the socion. Of course one should only use these tips on a path of virtù. Smile
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Eidos
PostPosted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 7:53 pm
Glad to have you back around, Smilingeyes!
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Smilingeyes
PostPosted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 8:25 pm
Nice to see you hanging around too.
Slightly worried though, don't you have anything better to do?
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Eidos
PostPosted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 11:04 pm
Originally Posted by
Smilingeyes
Nice to see you hanging around too.
Slightly worried though, don't you have anything better to do?
Everything's running smooth...
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Smilingeyes
PostPosted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 11:06 pm
Originally Posted by
Eidos
Everything's running smooth...
What do you get when everything's running smoothly?
A smoothie!
Hilarious.
Sorry. Carry on.
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Eidos
PostPosted: Fri Mar 10, 2006 12:19 pm
Originally Posted by
Smilingeyes
Originally Posted by
Eidos
Everything's running smooth...
What do you get when everything's running smoothly?
A smoothie!
Hilarious.
Sorry. Carry on.
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Smilingeyes
PostPosted: Fri Mar 10, 2006 11:06 pm
Excellent Eidos! If you don't mind I'll add a bit of something Smile
Tactical tips:
If ever you find yourself in a position in which you need to find a "bullet" this is your man: effective, yet expendable.
If you're very, very intuitive, some of these people might act as your "actiivity partner". If your communication with these people is due to such circumstances very good, you might be able to trust them a lot more than is the standard for this type. Testing required.
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Dioklecian
PostPosted: Sat Mar 11, 2006 9:30 pm
An INTj and an INTp description would be nice too ...
Expat
PostPosted: Sun Mar 12, 2006 12:01 am
Right, I’ll give it a try myself –
This will not be focused on the workplace, because in my experience, relationships with this type at work are mostly productive and lacking in friction, so nothing remarkable to report. So hopefully Pedro will be pleased - -
She’s charming, with a radiant smile, and a stylish sense of dress that you can admire if not envy. She makes it easy for you by picking up your genuine interest in her and responding accordingly and encouragingly. What could go wrong? Just one thing: she’s your super-ego, the ESFj.
The first contacts are always interesting since she’s definitely not the kind of person that expects you to take all the initiative in conversation. She’ll always be happy to talk about a number of subjects and will be knowledgeable about many interesting things, with a gift for telling stories, and make you long for the next encounter.
Meeting her continues to be very pleasant but, as the relationship develops and contacts become regular, even daily, you start to notice a few things. First, she will have the inclination to tell you, in sequence, the daily events of her day, mostly dealing with her interactions with other people. Sometimes she is going to make a point and want your opinion; but to reach that point, she needs to go, sequentially, through all the events that led to it, and you wonder if that was necessary. Other times she’ll just relate the events of her day without wanting to make any specific points, apparently expecting you to help her make sense of them. You will listen patiently and politely, and sometimes offer comment, but she will spot your lack of genuine interest and find your comments lacking. On the other hand, she will find your own preferred topics of conversation, more related to bigger-picture and longer-term events, puzzling and uninteresting.
Her inclination will be to try to please you with such things as creating a cozy atmosphere in her place and preparing very nice meals for you, with a lot of effort. These will be sincerely appreciated, but at the same time it will be clear to her that that kind of stuff is not really your strong point, especially when visiting your own less-than-cozy place.
You will become exasperated at her difficulty to evaluate how long anything is going to take, and how she tends to arrive late or just in the nick of time, and she will get upset at your impatience with unexpected delays and traffic jams.
Her instinct will be to try to help you to read how others perceive you emotionally, “can’t you see that he simply doesn’t like you”, she’ll say; your instinct will be to give her advice on practical decisions in her life. While not unappreciated, it will be clear that that is not exactly what either of you was needing the most from the other.
There will be no fights, no serious disagreements; just a sort of strain, stemming from no major issue, just from the different expectations and strengths during such daily interactions.
When you finally part ways, it will be due to no single crisis or reason; and you will feel guilty at noticing that a sort of psychological stress has been removed.
Yet, later, you will remember her smile and wonder whether those differences in your psychologies could really have been so important. Especially as she’ll continue to remember to text you on your birthday.
Tips: regarding work, none. They will be devoted and serious, at the same time as charming, pleasant to work with.
They will also be real friends who will always be in touch if you reciprocate.
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