Originally Posted by
Aramas
A lot of writing has been written about how caring caregivers are. They want to provide and do things for others, they want to bake cakes and cookies, and ensure a comfortable environment according to a lot of orthodox material.
But this is one-sided and hides the darkside of the caregiver. For the caregiver, whatever they deem to be safe and secure is the mandatory limit. Caregiving is as much an imposition as it is an offer of help. It's care, their way, whether you want it or not. Imagine being strapped to a bed and force-fed cookies and milk. Not quite as idyllic, although there might be some kinky people who like that sort of thing. The caregiver sincerely believes that they understand the needs of other people, regardless of whether they do or do not.
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Caregiving types can be just as angry, hateful, mean, and cruel as any aggressor, if not moreso, when their care is rejected. The most I've seen this idea acknowledged in the available lit says that some can see them as simply, "patronizing," but the truth goes far beyond that.