Gifts? treat her to a pedicure; if she's that stressed out, she may not be taking care of her physical self and just trying to do things. A nice groom, a pedicure, a facial, a hair style change may be a good gift for an EII. I know I let myself go sometimes, especially when there's just too much to do. Then, I hear it from my ESE sister, "you need a new hair cut, you look xyz."