I stole the idea for this thread from @fireee.
I moved across the US to go to school and ended up moving in with a couple who so far seems like a semi dual couple, ESE/LSI. The wife is for certain ESE 2w1 and the husband so far seems LSI, for certain 8w9 tho. It's sort of a crazy situation since they own 7 dogs, 4 cats, sugar gliders, and have a whole farm of animals.
a couple towns from the farm are where my friends live who are a SLI/IEE dual couple.
I'm EII, and since I'm I meeting new people for me is there's alot of discomfort with this move in. My LSE friend set this whole arrangement up and was supposed to move out here with me but his move date got delayed so I had to break the ice with this couple I've never met face to face before.
I've been here for about 3.5 weeks and for the first couple of weeks I've tried to let these people get to know me a little, show face, and break the ice. But after the first week I got tried and just wanted find some kind of comfort and pretty much rarely left my room. I feel like I could sense it was making things awkward. They teased me about not leaving the room so maybe things aren't as awkward as I think, but still somewhat.
The ESE
Very loud and TMI kind of lady, happy cheery attitude, always making sure I have what I need, asking me " Is everything ok? How was school? Do you need something? I have this if you need it." and is very particular about me leaving lights on, the fridge open and other things. I get chores to do that reduce my rent (which is why I chose to live in this crazy house in the first place lol, the price is unbeatable). She jokes that she has multiple personalities, the really happy, the pissed off, and the husband says "And the know it all, that one pisses ME off." She also said "Hey if we tease you that's how you know we like you, you'll know I don't like you if I start acting really nice to you." she was half joking lol. She's definitely got the witty banter thing going on and her sense of humor and mine tend to align. Just to mess with me she'll shoot some sarcastic joke like "So you ready to move out already? We scare you off yet?" "You tell you're friends we're serial killers yet?" lol. She's also told me all kinds of things like she's a picky eater, she's very skittish and a bunch of other things I never asked her lol, one time I called her name while she was vacuming and she yelled at the top of her lungs in fear saying she didn't know anyone was in the house, it seemed pretty exaggerated but still real. Top of her lungs no joke. Some people do a short "OH! You scared me." She did a full blown "AAAAAHHHH! SHIT!".
This lady tells me alot and barely knows me.
The LSI( only reason I had some doubt is because he didn't come off as an IXXX at first).
Well at very first he seemed IXXX but shortly after he didn't but now he seems pretty LSI, the 8 just made him seem somewhat E. When I first met him, after meeting his extra talkative wife (he says she's the talker) we shook hands and went separate ways without saying much after that, it was kinda awkward, like his wife expected us to say more after the handshake and we came up short. It felt like we were both introverts compared to her. But he gets pretty loud with his 7 dogs and his wife sometimes. 8w9 because he, well, one of the first things he said to me in a conversation was was "Yea when I first got my concealed carry license I thought I would always carry my gun around, but it's more likely I'd rip a dude limb from limb with my bare hands before I'd use a gun." He's 6'4 and over 200 pounds, I don't doubt the man. And his wife tells me before me and my friend decided to move in "The reason we offered a place to stay in exchange for chores is because we are both REALLY LAZY and just want someone to help around the house while we go camping and other stuff." so naturally I assume 8w9 instead of 8w7, since the guy is pretty mellow, like a huge bear. Anyway, he's got a dry sarcastic sense of humor and usually says "yeaa, I'm a dick." for laughs, he's the type that says a joke with a straight face but somehow you know he's joking. Pretty cool guy overall, can raise his voice from time to time at his wife and dogs, but overall a mellow bear with dark humor. He likes to watch family guy and loved the movie Deadpool. His humor is more blunt like "The only time you come out your room is when there's food around." "Our daughter named the cow after herself, it works great because sometimes I can say *daugther's name* is a f*ckin fat cow!" "Yeaaaa, I'ma a dick." he's got a straight face but everybody laughs lol. One time the wife was trying to tell me something, she was having a hard time telling me and he blurted out "She's trying to say _____ the light nice way."
Interesting folks.
The friends that live some towns away I knew before I moved to this state. One of them is a teacher at the school I go to, I go to their place to get out of the crazy house sometimes. I feel at home at their place, it's been non stop laughter ever since I moved into town. The husband is SLI and the wife is IEE.
The IEE
This woman is hilarious and the first time I met her she saw me drinking a cup of coffee and acted like she was gonna slap the cup up into my face while I was drinking it, joking of course, and I found it so forthright and funny that my gaurd dropped and we became instant friends. I guess a match in sense of humor was what sealed it. When I talk to her I feel like the me I constantly hide comes out.
The SLI
Very dry with his humor but finds it hilarious and everytime we talk there's something that's said that makes us burst out laughing, or we always got a running inside joke going. This guy is very informative, usually giving me advice about my car, pays attention to things like "Make sure your tires aren't bald because the roads are hot today and that's really rough on bald tires." like, I don't even think of stuff like that. We watched people take the One Chip challenge, and he could tell which guys were really in pain even if they barely looked affected, I was confused how he could tell when the person barely made a face.
They own hens and the IEE wife named the hens very peculiar names like "George" because it was curious and "Redneck" since one has a red neck, she finds it funny that none of the names are feminine names. And the husband works on a new chicken coop for the chickens, trying to make one that makes it convenient to collect their eggs. They also got afew beehives and the SLI said he doesn't want to harvest hunny yet because the bees won't have much for the winter, once again things like that don't even cross my mind.
When I stay over their house my personality just comes out authentically in full force like I'm almost an extrovert, there's a feeling like I have no inhibitions the same as when I am drunk except I'm sober lol, and this is significant to me because usually before I say anything I've very very very wary of if something is ok to say and internally I'm controlling what gets out and what stays in, so it's very different for me to feel like saying something, actually saying all of it, and not thinking twice or looking back, which is why I feel extraverted, I think it, I say it, and it understood, which feels like freedom. While when I'm at the crazy house I try and make sure no one's around so I can rush and hide in my room lol, mostly because there's so many new people in and out of this hustle and bustle house, I get tried of having to break the damn ice with every new face I see, geez! I just want some still ground lol. It's enough to try and get used to 2 people, they got folks coming and going in this place.
The SLI/IEE couple has 2 sons close to my age that I think are duals, one is a very obvious SLE and the other I suspect is IEI. They are pretty funny as well and really smart. Some of their conversations just fly over my head because they got so much information on certain topics. The IEI is real smart and studious, he's doing school, also tutors, also learns multiple languages, also takes piano lessons and does BJJ. He seems very put together like those anime characters that finger their glasses, but he can be kind of awkward in conversation, he's got a particular sense of humor that just has me rolling, I think it's because he's an I and there's alot of nuance in his ways I relate to, so the humor is deeper for me, I'm laughing at more things than the joke. The SLE's presence is known once he gets in the room because his feet are heavy enough to shake the walls sometimes lol, he must be type 7 or something because he's a really jolly dude and gets real amped up when meeting new people, anytime a topic comes up he's sharing all kinds of info about it like he's read a book on almost every topic you can talk about, once he gets going you'll probably learn something new once he's done talking. I told him about the sugar glider pets in my house and he was so interested in how exotic the animals were, he watched a video on youtube and the way he talked about them sounded like he also read a book on the topic, he says "What? it was an 8 minute video, that's alot of information." The IEI is older but the SLE is taller and bigger since he works out. For what it's worth the SLE has a gf and the IEI doesn't currently, and the SLE is all about the PDA in front of the parents, nothing crazy though.
Differences between the couples
Anyway, so far between the couples I haven't noticed any major like difference of duality besides the SLI/IEE love to talk about memories of things they did together, and the SLI knows very well the things his wife likes like "Oh she looooves the fire place." And the Semi dual couple the only thing I noticed is that when the ESE tries to tell the LSI how to do something sometimes he will yell and shut her down with verbal force like "I GOT IT! I'll HANDLE IT!" and she's as quiet as a mouse when he does that, it gets tense tho, it feels more like she's holding her tongue instead of her being in fear tho, if I had to guess. Sometimes the ESE asks me to do things that I know the LSI wouldn't be ok with me doing. Also there's what I suspect an SEE who is around my age living in the house that does chores and when she gets in trouble with the LSI (who usually loves her like a daughter) the ESE is quick to jump to take the blame for whatever she did, I'm guessing that's the type 2 coming to the rescue.
I'll record stuff about the dynamics here.