how much understanding is really optimal between two people?
this question could be about duality in theory, or it could be about your own opinion concerning what the ideal would be.
sometimes somebody says something to me like, "yeah, i totally know what you mean." and i know that they don't. but when it comes to that particular topic and that particular person there's something a bit charming and lovely about the gap inbetween. sometimes a person will misunderstand me in such a way that they veer the conversation over to the left but then between the left and where i'm standing on the right, there forms a ven diagram middle where i gain a perspective that i couldn't have gained if they had completely understood me. of course, there are other times i get annoyed at people believing they understand me when they don't, or somebody steers the conversation so far away that i get lost and think they're clueless. it isn't ALWAYS okay. what factors do you think are at play here? a certain percentage ratio of understanding? lol. functions in play? etc. etc.