Hey guys!
Well I doubt I'm ENFp, but on the off-chance that I might be, I'll still go ahead and answer the question since my relationship with some ESFj's in my life has been a topic of thought for me lately. For some reason, I seem to have been surrounded by them my whole life, mostly not by choice since they've been family. There's something about our interactions that has always driven me pretty insane, especially two ESEs in particular, who I've known for a very long time. Where to begin? I find them overbearing, extremely judgemental, naggy, smothering, too demanding of my attention. We've been completely incapable of connecting in any real way. I often find myself tuning them out, only to feel bad about it later. What's worse, sometimes I can act outright rude to them, which in retrospect I realize I just take them for granted since no matter what I do or how I act, they'll always be there. I feel zero need to impress them. I just don't get how they go about in doing things. It seems to me like they overfocus and even obsess over what to me are unimportant details. It always leaves me feeling so frustrated, especially because they try to push things on me and meddle. I wish they could just let me be, but it's like they're incapable of doing so. It's always felt like a sort of sick dependence; like the more negatively I react to their "input", the more they can't just let me go. They seek me out all the time and bombard me with what in my opinion are totally ridiculously mundane questions until I explode with frustration, like "why the hell do you need to know what I ate and at what time and whether I'm wearing a jacket and did I call so and so". Ugh. I really do try to be patient, but there's something about ESEs that just makes me snap at them. I mean, I know they mean well and all that and I always feel guilty afterwards, but I just can't stand it. So, the end result is usually a hurt ESE walking away, muttering about how I'm always in a bad mood and can't even stand to be spoken to, how they'll just keep their mouths shut from now on since their presence is so unbearable to me. It genuinely makes me sad that they always seem a little anxious and on edge around me since that is never my intention. I can tell that often times they find themselves watching every word they say to me out of fear of aggravating me, so they'll start off by phrasing things as "I'm not trying to tell you what to do or anything...".
TBH, I sometimes find myself fighting the impulse to tell them "I can't believe you are this stupid." It's horrible! Makes me feel like a horrible person. I think I look down on them because they just seem so superficial. They're sweet people though, at least the ones I know.
God, I suck.