Originally Posted by
Adam Strange
I know this female ESI whom I described in post #5 of this thread. She’s ESI-Se, e6, about 44, and looks exactly like the singer Peggy Lee. She owns a lawn care company and I first talked to her a few years ago when she was working on the house across the street. At that time, she suggested that we go out for “a burger and beer but no sex”, and I thought “Who the hell thinks like that?”
It took over a year of me constantly asking, but she and I eventually went out for a burger and beer and no sex. And no beer, because I don’t drink, but we did end up talking for eight hours.
I asked her out again, many times, and she always had an excuse for not going out. I like her, and I actually think she’s sexy, but she’s never been married and it’s easy to see why. She’s just saying No No No No No. You know, after a while, this gets to be a pain in the ass, and at some point, I just stopped trying to date her and flipped a mental switch to “she’s a lawn care resource, and that’s all she is”.
Today, I spent the entire day working with a male ESI customer, trying to sort out the problems of a device my company designed for his company. He and I dualized months ago and we broke for lunch at his favorite lunch place, just because we enjoy each other’s company. So my tank was basically “filled up” with dual understanding by the end of the day.
When I got home, I noticed that the tree trimmers had cut down a tree and had left the wood on the ground, so I called the female ESI and asked her if she wanted some free firewood. She said she knew someone who would take it. I said I’d have some workmen over this weekend who could help her load it.
”Are they cute?”, she asked?
I thought, WTF? “They are a guy like your father and a muscular guy who did prison time. I don’t think you want to go there.”
”Are you still seeing your girlfriend from across the street?” She asks the craziest things.
”She’s not my girlfriend. She’s not my type. I don’t even know if she’s still living there. I haven’t seen her in months.”
”Oh, she’s still there. I saw her today.”
”Look, she’s the same type as my last girlfriend and I’m not going there again.”
”At least you’re keeping your standards high.”
Now this is exasperating. “Why are you asking about the woman across the street?” I thought this conversation was about firewood?
She says, ”I’m flirting with you, dummy.”
I do a mental head slap. For three years, all I get is No No No and now she wants to flirt. Well, I’m not a very romantic guy. If she wants to talk to me, she should come over and take her clothes off.
*EDIT*
Stratiyevskaya said, in her essay on LIE-ESI Duality, that relations between this Dual pair proceed quickly and practically without a lot of elaborate formalities, because for both of them, “Life is work.”
This seems to be exactly the attitude that I am defaulting to.