It's not that I feel like they are actively controlling me. I am always willing to adapt and accommodate, so when someone is rigid and niggling and a one-path thinker who rejects my way of looking at bigger pictures, a variety of avenues, I will try to accommodate them (when I realize I can't get them to see things in a more complex way). Then I feel trapped in this rigid thought system and feel controlled and limited.
So "they are controlling" is probably not the right way of putting it, but rather "I feel controlled by them." It's like they chain me down with their lack of flexibility.