The thing with these erotic attitudes though is that I didn't really want to think that I'm "Careful" when I read the descriptions. I was much more interested in being the Aggressor, based on how I like to see myself. However, upon reflecting on my past relationships, it became QUITE clear that I am indeed the careful type. The more serious and/or the more unhealthy/unbalanced the relationship, the more apparent this became. So Zem, look back over your past relationships, particularly the more serious ones. Did you find yourself with guys you took care of, or guys who dominated you and told you what to do? Did you find yourself holding a guy as he fell asleep, or find yourself tied to a headboard with a ballgag (or "ball of fun" ) in your mouth? And as far as "playing games", you don't think you ever use emotional ploys???

I posted in another thread that I hate admitting to be the careful type (and wouldn't for a while) because it's embarrassing. Could it be the same for you? Remember, just because you're one type doesn't mean that you never act like another. I act like the aggressor and infantile types sometimes (aggressor more than infantile), but I'm DEFINITELY the Careful type.