The first story is pure desperate seeking of outside approval/validation from others that ultimately don't matter if we're really getting down to it. Predictable.Originally Posted by Adam Strange
The second story makes me question the age of the sender of the dick pick. Sounds like a childish prank out of someone who is way younger than the victim. This raises other questions but they too rely on this point of data. Were they much younger than the girl they sent the pic to?
@End, yes, the sender was much younger then the woman who received the picture. Plus, she said he might be a little “slow”, if you know what I mean.
Yep. Big problem that can be instantly countered by the honest and loving attention of the "step-father" in this case. No, no I am not your actual daddy and I cannot and will not pretend to be.
I can be the equivalent of the most awesome uncle you could imagine however.
I will need to sort out a few more concepts I'm currently working through but this is where I'm at right now.
Data point received. Predictable in a tragic sense. Poor dumb fool. If he had instead shared a fragment of a manuscript he'd been working on for the past month instead of a... likely deficient part of his anatomy he might have gotten somewhere.
Protip: Share your earnest and most heartfelt of goals with your potential paramour on the first date. Mine are marriage, kids, and a partner who understands that the "starving artist" archetype is a thing for a reason.
I think I remember that you in particular have several complicating factors (i.e. you got multiple kids from multiple marriages).
My own father "lucked out" insofar as he only ever successfully spawned me and my SEE bro despite his likely many affairs (he's obviously a "rake" and fucking hell I saw him in action recently and damn, surprised he hasn't nailed a harem down in Vegas TBH even though he could stand to lose a few pounds if I must say so). We may be experiencing a similar phenomenon from different angles. I'm on the "business end" of it all whereas you may be the Don Juan he aspired to be.
I forget the story's name but in that particular cannon there was a woman who actually got one over on the legendary arch-seducer. Hell, he even bent the knee and proposed to her. She shot him down stating (likely accurately) that the instant he felt she was his his eyes would wander yet again to yet another potential conquest...
@End, I have mixed feelings about commitment.
Yes, I date a lot, but as far as I know, I only have one offspring.
As for committing to one woman, when I got married, I was sooooo happy that my Don Juan days were over. Of course, I viewed my Supervisor wife as being much superior to me, so I felt I won the jackpot and no other woman would be better, so why look?
I recently got a shock when one of the women I was dating (an ESI) started to get serious. She was trying to nail my feet to the floor and I realized that I wasn't ready for that.
Other women have wanted to marry me since my divorce, but they were never "possibles" in my mind. The ESI, on the other hand, was a "possible" in the Socionics sense, but a long shot in the social sense.
IDK, things just started to feel "too real" when I understood her intentions. I think I'm looking for an ESI who is better in every respect than I am, sort of like the way I felt about my Supervisor wife, but given Socionics ITRs, that might be an unrealistic expectation.
It doesn't help that my Fi sucks. Or that I'm dating people in the "over thirty" group, where most of the best people for relationships are already in one.
My owntechnically does as well but it's also the thing that tends to shine through. Everyone I've ever met in person tells me, despite my many shortcomings, that I'm a "good" person. That my "intentions" are so pure it almost hurts (in so many words). Hell, most all dogs, cats, even wildlife flock to me as if I was Saint Francis reincarnated. He's not even my Patron! (Mine is Agustine and his mother's story is well worth regarding).
As for the ESI trying to nail you to the floor I once again reiterate what I have said before. Challenge her to reveal her goals and ambitions to you. Hell, you can go first provided you do so earnestly and honestly. Tell her your heart's desire. Where would you like to see yourself 10 years hence? Does this vision of yours somehow dovetail with her own? Hell, can she let her guard down enough to even say "I've got this/asking for a friend..." trope that even she knows is so obvious a cover-up for her own perspectives and yet tries it anyway?
You can play with her a bit here but ultimately you must realize what you're hopefully dealing with. A broken woman who can potentially be repaired (with great effort) from your end. This is not to dissuade you from the task for if you undertake it and are correct in your assumptions you will forge an emotional bond of adamantine strength. Pressure makes a diamond after all.
She's going to shit test you just short of going nuclear. She can and will flirt with other men. Men who aren't rakish enough to exploit that situation effectively BTW but inflaming your insecurities was the goal there and if she failed to get you to get abusive somehow that's a point so well and thoroughly in your favor you may have just flat out won in ways that'd take me books to lay out effectively.
I will once more point out that Attachment>Duality and that if you're on the business end of "Princess Kaguya" Nuclear Shit Tests your best bet is to tell that haughty bitch to get bent and seek a paramour amongst the company of a common bar. Still not a good idea but far better than pining after that impossibly overrated "Can't Understand Normal Thinker" as it were.
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