I'm just creating a new thread on this topic out of respect for OP's wishes in this thread: https://www.the16types.info/vbulleti...-and-limerence
I'm just creating a new thread on this topic out of respect for OP's wishes in this thread: https://www.the16types.info/vbulleti...-and-limerence
That was helpful, thanks. I hadn't considered that possibility. I shouldn't have had that attitude toward it before inquiring more. That was a lesson learned for me, I'll try to keep a more open/receptive mind in the future.
I have criticized similar things, but in my case, it's been about general willful self-delusion in relationships. I always think of this song when I think about this subject...
I suspect that one reason some people would want limerence and lies is that they believe reality is unable to supply them with happiness. Some people are also just emotionally weak and won't face it, though. Sad, since that always produces worse outcomes in their lives. It's better to rip off the band-aid, get through it, and move on to better options.
Some people also end up flipping their entire lives around to accommodate someone who is not ideal for them, or makes it one sided and end up in really bad situations due to limerence.
Hmm, where one sees limerance, another sees love. I honestly don't like words like this, they have too much precision. I want it to be love, unhealthy and healthy, good and bad.
I could use this diagram:
Unfortunately, I don't stop thinking about the ones I love and I won't stop. Everything seems to be describing behaviors and thought patterns and not feelings.
The Barnum or Forer effect is the tendency for people to judge that general, universally valid statements about personality are actually specific descriptions of their own personalities. A "universally valid" statement is one that is true of everyone—or, more likely, nearly everyone. It is not known why people tend to make such misjudgments, but the effect has been experimentally reproduced.
The psychologist Paul Meehl named this fallacy "the P.T. Barnum effect" because Barnum built his circus and dime museum on the principle of having something for everyone. It is also called "the Forer effect" after its discoverer, the psychologist Bertram R. Forer, who modestly dubbed it "the fallacy of personal validation".
The Barnum or Forer effect is the tendency for people to judge that general, universally valid statements about personality are actually specific descriptions of their own personalities. A "universally valid" statement is one that is true of everyone—or, more likely, nearly everyone. It is not known why people tend to make such misjudgments, but the effect has been experimentally reproduced.
The psychologist Paul Meehl named this fallacy "the P.T. Barnum effect" because Barnum built his circus and dime museum on the principle of having something for everyone. It is also called "the Forer effect" after its discoverer, the psychologist Bertram R. Forer, who modestly dubbed it "the fallacy of personal validation".
I think this article explains linerence well enough.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.min...cles/limerence
Chronic "grass is always greener" syndrome
I'm confused about the unhealthy part. As to why you'd what that?
I don't think anyone actually stops thinking about people they love. In the case of limerence, it seems to be obsession to the point of over interpreting things that happen between them and other, not seeing the person for who they really are and ignoring red flags and things like that. It's like not giving the other person a chance to be accepted for who they are because you've built up and image of them that you want.
Chronic "grass is always greener" syndrome
The Barnum or Forer effect is the tendency for people to judge that general, universally valid statements about personality are actually specific descriptions of their own personalities. A "universally valid" statement is one that is true of everyone—or, more likely, nearly everyone. It is not known why people tend to make such misjudgments, but the effect has been experimentally reproduced.
The psychologist Paul Meehl named this fallacy "the P.T. Barnum effect" because Barnum built his circus and dime museum on the principle of having something for everyone. It is also called "the Forer effect" after its discoverer, the psychologist Bertram R. Forer, who modestly dubbed it "the fallacy of personal validation".