I have an SLE cousin. He used to be a high ranking gang member. When I was in school being bullied, he would make sure that bullies laid off of me. He came to me a few times for advice on his purpose and what his long term goals in life should be. When we were adults, he noticed that I always stayed inside by myself, so he tried taking me out around his friends a few times. I just awkwardly sat there stone faced while they did drugs and dicked around. He told me that it pissed him off how I never opened up or made an effort to join in with his group when they were trying to have fun. He stopped trying to hang around me after awhile.