I work with a 39 yo male ILE and a 46 (?) yo married female SEI. They had been mostly avoiding each other, probably because they were busy learning their jobs, but I told them that they were each other's Duals. The SEI seems to either not understand or not care about Socionics, and the ILE told me that I'm full of malarky, but they started to talk. Now, they talk all the time and the ILE tells me to go find something else to do, rather than to bother them. They really do lean on each other for support now. Incidentally, the SEI is married to an ESE. I've talked to her about her Duality with the ILE, and I can tell that she wishes some things were different, but she's not going there. She has three kids and the ILE doesn't do relationships, it seems.
The only time I saw them argue was when the ILE told the SEI that he was her boss (he isn't). She stood up from her desk and said, "No, I'M YOUR BOSS", and the ILE crept out of her office with his tail between his legs. However, it didn't seem to affect how much they like each other, and they both seem to be working harder and to have a reason now for coming into work, but I don't know the reason for this.
So, @
calm, expect to watch two weak magnets pull each other slowly closer, and for you to eventually be cut out entirely from the discussion as they discover how much better Duality is than Super-Ego or Contrary. Take heart from the fact that you did the right thing.