Member Questionnaire 1 (Coolnerd03)
What is beauty? What is love?
Beauty depends on the eye of the beholder.
Love is a bunch of chemicals and hormones in the brain that creates a strong attachment to a person, animal or thing.
What are your most important values?
Intelligence, live and let live, treat others like you'd like to be treated.
Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?
Im agnostic because the existence of God hasn't been proven but there's no proof that he doesn't exist so I can't really believe anything that insists on his existence or his non existence.
Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?
War is a foolish method lf dealing with conflict, people refuse to see other points of view and stubbornly believe that their opinions and choices are as pure as gold. War can be easily prevented. Power to me is being the most intelligent and analytical, being able to see the true meaning of things, seeing the big picture and being needed by a large amount of people for advice and guidance is power to me.
What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why?
Comic books (theories about them), movies, existence of the paranormal and myths,aliens, reasons for the creation of life(wanted to say meaning of life but does life really have a meaning? Who knows) and religion.

My interests are writing, gaming, internet surfing, comic books and typology. I like writing because it allows me to express myself and all the ideas I have swirling in my head whether it be a theory or a story. There's a lot of information now uploaded onto the internet that's easy to find compared to going to the library, specifically stuff about typology. I like reading comic books because it allows me to immerse myself into this fictional world where the impossible becomes the possible and where we can play around with it and explore our own stories with comic book worlds as our base. I domt really know why i like typology, Ive always loved putting people in theoretical boxes to better understand them. The reason for liking gaming is the same for comic books.
Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body?
Nope, never. Im not really focused om my body, i do worry from time to time about certain foods having some negative effcts to my health but otherwise there's a lack of focus on my body.
What do you think of daily chores?
Tedious. Some lack reasons for doing them in my opinion. Why make your bed everymorning if youre going to mess it up again later?
Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome.
Movies: All Marvel and DC movies, I.T., Transformers, Star Wars
Books: The catcher in the rye, psychological types... I spemd most of my time internet surfing...
What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why?
What has made me cry: being betrayed by close friends or just being abandoned, being made fun of or being told im useless or something( especially in public) having my deepest secrets exposed and then being made fun of for them, not being able to understand something, being called dumb/stupid.
What makes me smile: being told im loved/ wanted, understanding or solving something complicated, being complemented for being smart or deep.
I just want to be appreciated because I suffer some bad self esteem that seems to rely on the opinions of others about me.
Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging?
Where theres discussions in a group about the things I'm interested in ( like forums about typology).
What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?
People think I'm a pessimist because apparently im a huge complainer and seem to have a negative opinion about most things and believe events to lead negative events. Ive also been described to be overly obsessive about things, too rambly, a "worrier", lazy, sensitive, impractical ( i come up with random fantastical theories and just daydream most of the time) etc. I dont like the fact that I'm "useless" to others, the fact that theres a lot people dont like about me makes be dislike myself. I also hate that I'm extremely socially awkward and freeze up when im nervous. I also end up regretting a lot of my decisions not because I picked the wrong one but because I didnt pick one at all, im an extremely passive and anxious person. im also pretty arrogant( yep... I'm a contradiction) and I'm damn indecisive.
What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
People think that I'm intelligent. I like the fact that im able to chew up information, fully grasp it and imagine it in different circumstances. I also think I'm a pretty open minded person whos capable of looking at situations from multiple angles and understanding why people do the things they do( like empathising with criminals).
In what areas of your life would you like help?
Being more social , being able to take charge/initiative, being less shy
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
Yes, typing myself has been a hassle because i can see some of the types to fit me but some aspects of those types that don't so I just don't know anymore. It's frustrating because i wlays end up bringing myself a step back and one time Ive even thrown a few objects in rage.
What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with?
I like people who are brave and willing to do unexpected things ( sometimes I dare my SLE friend to go and talk to a random girl at the mall and he goes and does it with confidence), I like people who are willing to accept others regardless of weaknesses and those who are open minded and try to understand my views and others. Also someone whos kind.
How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?
I want a partner whos initiative, kind, outgoing, someone who can help me with my indecisiveness and help me with my self esteem.
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
I'd be concerned about the choices s/he would make and whether or not s/he is a good person. I wouldn't be strict though and wouldn't take any traditional measures, i would rather talk to them and show how their decisions would affect them and others and if and when their consequences catch up to them I wouldnt do much ( unless it's really bad) so that they can learn from their mistakes. Parents these days take measures before letting their kids learn the consequences of their actions which is why kids are normally so rebellious these days but hey I could be wrong.
A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?
Inward: try to understand where the person is coming from and compare it with my own belief to check it's validity and either try to unify our beliefs or ditch my own and adopt a new one but if the person's belief doesnt make sense then I'll highly criticize their view.
outward: if theyre right ( see inward part) them I'll nod and probably outwardly explain to them why their opinion is right ( my way of complementing) and theorize about how this compares to other views and information( then they'll shut me up for my rambling). If I dont see how theycould be right then I'll either leave the matter amd keep quiet if I dont know them well or criticize their view if i know them well which is when I'm confident
Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
People can't think for themselves these days, they make mistakes that can be avoided without their emotional decision making. Its whay creates wars and conflicts. I sense society dislikes me because of my negative opinion about it.
How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?
My friends choose me. Im very sarcastic and witty around them and i enjoy a good laugh. We meddle with other people around us for comedic purposes. I can be kinda mean with others to blend in with my group although not to the extent theyre willing to go.
How do you behave around strangers?
Im quiet and passive. Dont say much if I talk at all and can be quite polite in order to be liked.