ISFj and Initiating Conversation

[Adam Strange]

@Aylen, I agree with the idea that most women know in a few seconds whether or not they are interested. I probably knew with her, too, and decided that she's nice but not someone I'd split my life with. But the truth is, I do enjoy her company. She's easy to be with and is lots of fun.

But yeah, putting me off for so long is a pretty clear "No" indicator. Lol.

As for sharing what Fi looks like, that is best done with pictures, and I can't do that right now. Instead, I will just say that EII-Fi's and ESI-Fi's have a lot of it, and I usually have to look harder for it in ESI-Se's but sometimes it just comes through like opening a window, and in SEE's, it is hidden from their faces but still there in their actions.

[Aylen]

@Aylen, I agree with the idea that most women know in a few seconds whether or not they are interested. I probably knew with her, too, and decided that she's nice but not someone I'd split my life with. But the truth is, I do enjoy her company. She's easy to be with and is lots of fun.

But yeah, putting me off for so long is a pretty clear "No" indicator. Lol.

As for sharing what Fi looks like, that is best done with pictures, and I can't do that right now. Instead, I will just say that EII-Fi's and ESI-Fi's have a lot of it, and I usually have to look harder for it in ESI-Se's, and in SEE's, it is hidden but still there.

I don't mean what it looks like visually. I mean how do you notice loads of Fi in the little things they say and do? You don't have to answer right now, or ever. If you want to put it into words someday I would be happy to read it.

[Adam Strange]

I don't mean what it looks like visually. I mean how do you notice loads of Fi in the little things they say and do? You don't have to answer right now, or ever. If you want to put it into words someday I would be happy to read it.

I'll give that some thought. It's kind of tough to describe, because Fi is like a submarine. Very much there beneath the surface, but you can't see it at all, usually.

The LSI whom I was seeing valued Fe but every once in a while, she'd do genuine Fi (it's her Role function). It broke my heart every time she did this, because it just showed me what I wasn't getting regularly.