I really think that learning about duality is going to have a negative effect for me as an ILI. It almost validates my behavior of disconnecting myself romantically which in my mind is how you end up unmarried for life.

If I wanted to engineer conditions to meet one of these people who are magically obligated to approach me and my slumped "Do not disturb" body language, how would I do that? I say that half-jokingly but it sounds like if I did the approaching, the SEE would not pick up on it?

In all seriousness, I can't imagine where I would try to find a SEE or even an enneagram 3, 7 or 8. Where do you even start with that? I don't mind putting in the work to test it if anyone has ideas.