Originally Posted by
ghost of forum past
One thing that I dislike is aggressive competitiveness. For example, if I am skilled or "gifted" in a particular area, I tend to dislike doing something pertaining to that area if others push it upon me to "be the best". Here is an example:
Backstory: I apparently have a "gift" for music, whatever that means. I'll try saying this quickly as I hate talking about myself in a way that could be interpreted as boastful, as I'm only providing this information to support a character trait. Anyway, in school, I was in the band. I was highly skilled at my instrument. Skilled enough to audition for "All-Region" and "All-State" organizations, sponsored by the school. My parents were gently supportive; however, other people, like my private teacher and other students, were pushy in a way that was essentially "you HAVE to make such and such band" or "you MUST practice 50 hours a night" (exaggeration) and "beat everyone else", etc., without considering that maybe I didn't want to. I had lots of schoolwork, and these people expected me to do the many hours a night of homework required in American high schools AND practice my instrument 3+ hours a night and somehow remain sane. In the end, I decided to remove this activity from my life, as it caused me unnecessary stress. However, I have always loved music, and so I still find ways to exercise this hobby of mine (composing, piano, guitar, still play my instrument a bit).
I was thinking of this, and decided that it related to people stressing my Se PoLR (not wanting to be pressured, to be told what to do, etc.) and people not supplementing my Fe DS (most of the people were not encouraging in any way, showed little excitement when I exercised my talent, etc.).
Thoughts? Can any other LIIs relate?