..your friends waste your time? I'd rather turn off my cell phone especially on weekends because it feels like an electronic leash.
..your friends waste your time? I'd rather turn off my cell phone especially on weekends because it feels like an electronic leash.
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well not an intj... im an esfj... why would you feel like that?
really a hard time saying no? lol thats funny its easy though its only two letters n-o-
ahh thats so funny yet so cute!
This is an INTj weakness for sure. I think the cure all answer for this is to use the magic sentence "Let me think about it."
Of course that is if "No" is far too difficult.
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When you're hanging out with friends you're not really learning anything (growing). If they have nothing to do with my personal interest in training or learning something, what's the point? In retrospect, they might as well be holding my hand.
Waste of time.
They say that iron sharpens iron. But what if your friends are plastic? They just hold you back, in this case it better to be alone and choose yourself as an opponent. For the past 5 years friends have wasted my time... and once it's gone it's gone. Oh wells.
And THEN, there's such despicable friends who grow envious and are happy to see you go down. Unchangeable maggots they are.
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I hate my phone, but it really depends on what I'm doing. If I'm working on a project, or thinking about something important and someone wants to talk to me, it can be hard for me to take my mind off of whatever it is I'm doing. I usually avoid my friends when I'm busy like this so I don't have to brush them off and seem rude.
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I don't use my phone much.
And I like my alone time although sometimes I over do it.
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I don't have any demands. I must be making fairly decent preventions. If I had a demand, I would usually ask for the reason involving it, and usually it's something dumb such as "because we're going to do this, and I was thinking that you could do this too." And of course I respond, "ah, I'll see what I can do."
lol what?
... Malia is like totally ESFj and at the very least Alpha SF.
Perhaps your conception of an ESFj is off, Sarinana?
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Btw Archon..here have some FE ISFPUSSY.
lol@people who whine about their cellphones. you guys do know that you can live life without even owning one right? just throw the fucker away, and all that stress is gone.
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@OP: I find the same problem as a few people brought up, I have a hard time saying no and I sometimes run myself ragged spending time with all my friends. Sometimes I just want to turn my phone off, and just sit by myself. Mostly, though, I hate when I'm forced to confirm doing something, because I always want to keep my plans open. I prefer spontaneous last minute activities to planning ahead. My new roomie is definitely good for that, I tend to come home from work and he'll say "Let's go, we're all heading to so-and-so's house for some fun!" I like living that way.
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Yea that's one of the funny things about Ti types. We always bitch about how people keep bothering us, but we're dependable so we always keep an eye on the phone. It's not that we don't want people to depend on us, it's that we want to be recognized for being dependable.
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I just like being known as dependable so that when opportunity arises, I'm asked to come along. And I don't have difficulty saying no. To me there's no better reason than that. I don't really get phone calls to go out and about to do things, so dependability isn't that big of a deal right now. Dependability to me is not the same as availability. Dependability means keeping ones promise, following through. I could care less if someone can't get a hold of me because I'm busy at that time. Doesn't mean I won't call them back soon.
Never had a cellphone. I hate the things with a passion.
I can't relate to the issue of having difficulty responding with no to requests.
In my experience, it's either that I'm feeling some pressure like I know the person is expecting a certain answer and I know I'll really disappoint him/her if I don't give that answer. It doesn't really matter if I will or will not give that answer, the pressure alone is enough to make me hesitate.
edit: actually, I may need to rethink this.
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In my opinion, it should barely be used at all. Socionics is about intertype relations. I don't see how you can get that information from someone's appearance. (I should also say that I do agree that there is a connection between someone's appearance and their personality. However, it's just extra information that usually can't tell you more than what you can get by interviewing someone. So, if it is used, it should be used sparingly.)
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I don't own a cell phone, and I receive few calls. I would actually like it if people called me more often. However, I wouldn't like it if I were being called all the time.
When I say I'm going to think about it, often the answer is "no" but I don't want to say it. When I say I'm going to think about it, sometimes it means that I want to think about it. First scenario is more common. I believe it has to do something with Ne and Se-PoLR.Originally Posted by glamourama
I'm not the biggest fan of phones and sometimes I wish I never got one. I'll make necessary phone calls, or calls to confirm plans. It feels like a waste of time when its just texting/talking for the sake of it. I need to prepare in advanced when talking on the phone because when people call me out of the blue, it kind of freaks me out. I enjoy time with friends in moderation, but I don't enjoy it when people need to talk every waking moment. There are times when I make plans with people, but part of me wants to spend the day alone.
I enjoy it when I get there but part of me is conflicted. They are good for keeping in touch with people and keeping the time if you don't have a watch on you, but many people spend too much of their time on them, and it bothers me when people send me a ton of text messages. It sometimes comes across like they are using me as a tool to kill their boredom. In this day and age, that is nearly unheard of though. I prefer texting over calls but in my weird mind, that can count as intruding on alone time.
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