Okay, I can't take it anymore. I'm going to have to post... (yes, about someone I am dating)... and yes, she's obviously and ISTp.
We have only gone out a few times. The first few were pretty good, then all of a sudden things got weird. I think it got weird right around a week when I had to cancel our plans... but I'm not sure if that's why things got weird.
At first she always picked up the phone when I called (which was like once a week). Then she stopped answering her phone. I would call maybe three times (once a day, three days in a row) before she would call back. When she did return my call, she politely appologized and we made plans for the weekend.... I sometimes have issues answering my phone, so I didn't think anything of it.
The situation repeated this week. I had not called her in ~1 week? She finally returned my call and I asked her if she wanted to get coffee today. We both had busy schedules, so I told her to call me at 1 and we would play it from there. She had not called at 1:30 so I call her, I get her voice message.... All I wanted to know is if I should start making myself lunch.
I get this weird impression that she is affraid to talk to me or something. It's not like she's hurting my feelings. I ust don't understand why she can't simply call and say she can't do anything. It's just common courtesy... see, an INTj even knows that.
Anyways, I need to confront her (should I?), and I need to know the best way to do it. She seems to get nervous when I ask her indepth questions. By in depth I mean "what interests you". I guess she feels like I'm putting her on the spot. She has a burrier that I am unable to penetrate. Its starting to get to me... nothing will progress if she doesn't at least sometimes give me a taste of what she's like.
I would just ask her point blank "What do you think about me," but I don't think she would like that too much.
Sorry about the long post. I know it's kind of choppy... ask questions on whatever you find unclear. Thanks.