I'm not talking about wrongdoings. In the sense that I'm not judging his person as "bad". I'm simply giving an evaluation of his actions/behaviour in terms of what issues there are with them. But yeah sure the hard cold truth can be hard to take without making it about one's person even when not intended in that way.
And don't jump to conclusions, it's not about forgetting other people's issues or even wrongdoings.
As for "ganging up": apparently some elements of his behaviour got to the point where multiple people notice issues. That, if not fixed, will just lead the person the wrong way even more. And will bother others too even more.
Lol btw you are ENFP now?