I believe LIEs have the POTENTIAL to become Gamers--the challenge, the competition. Sometimes when we do indulge in things we can be pretty unhealthy. Partying too hard, not sleeping etc...I think it's a way of indulging our Se HA. I think the thing that does stop us though is our PolR Si. We want to go hard as hell to prove that we can..yet be able to walk away too, so it doesn't become a weakness....but the problem is they eat so much time. First, you'd have to invest some time in learning how the environment works there. So it'd be something for moments when you really can waste some.
We can adopt a pretty negative attitude to what we perceive as gluttonous or overly self indulgent..."weakness". Indeed that aversion drives the formation of many of my personal stances on things. I loved Facebook at first..then I started to hate the idlers--those who were always online ready to respond with a "Thank you" for any "Like" within a second...24/7. Always inviting people to join FarmVille or whatever. Someone would post "Spending some quality time with my kiddoes!<3" And I'd think "No you're not--you're sitting typing at your computer." Haha Finally I left Facebook..& am appalled at how much time I actually spent doing that Sh__.
In my early 20s a bunch of my crowd started doing coke. At first I thought that was fun & adventurous..until I saw 3 of my friends seriously arguing about whose hit was up next. My SEE ex came in & said "look at you guys, wtf's the matter with you!!" Haha. After that I saw coke differently..as a sign of "weakness", & therefore stopped. Our image consciousness can at times be our liberator, and at other times our prison (perhaps that's also because I'm E3 though).
I don't think the ILI has the same aversion towards self indulgence. Role's a lot more laid back than PolR. My ILI GF once slept at my place after a party. The next day she was completely jonesing for her Tablet that she left at my place because she couldn't play her Candy Crush. I laughed and got it to her quickly, because she was so up front and unashamed about her sense of entitlement towards her self indulgence/addiction. I kind of admired that. She's really good at her games too!
I've definitely become more ILI-like the older I get. In my teens/20s I was like a SEE--very social, partying hard, living to excess. Ironically now I'm more introverted sometimes than my ILI GF who wants to hang out, socialize & party more. I think the introverted version of LIE is healthier--less consumed by image or outer judgement. If we can Si in private, then sometimes we can cut ourself some slack! The danger of "introverting" is the same as with ILE--we can become too stuck & hermit-like. We need socializing to take the edge off & make us human. Cheers
**Edit: I just remembered my ILI GF is always pushing the games too! She bought me a set of darts, she always wants to play euchre, poker, Big2...we've even all played Clue. I see it all as a night to get drunk--which we do, & it's a good time. The funniest thing is I have this annual Bender in August, & she makes everyone play Charades. It's actually quite entertaining seeing everyone making drunk and uninhibited fools of themselves. My brother's GF didn't want to play but was forced, and then the card she drew to act out was: Beaver. Haha
Maybe for the ILI, games create a fabricated but safe intimacy. Where there is no pressure to be impressively socially entertaining because everyone's stuck there & occupied for the game's entirety. It becomes relaxation, combined with some social...but the main goal is to demonstrate strategic and intellectual superiority. It's perfect for the ILI!
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