Would be very interested to hear more about this particular relationship.

I have had two prolonged relationships with close-to-sure EII's. One was more outward, random and ''IEE'' like, the other was more inert, calm, Fi-like. I had a better relationship with the Fi one most of the time.

I always felt a sense of admiration from them, coupled with an inaccessability towards me. They didn't understand me, but they admired and generally liked what they understood. Although, i have been in several strifes with them, they saw me as insensitive and unable to create contact with others, as uncompromising. In a light atmosphere, talk of death, violence and sadness was very upsetting to them. Joking about self-hatred did not sit well with them. Directness in thought should always be tactful, to them. This meant that they felt empowerment when i agreed, attacked when i disagreed. They seemed to want to create a connection, but i would always ''outrage'' them enough to make them give up.

What they liked best was that they found me amusing and witty, sarcastic and critical. My inner life never interested them, when i did share.

I see this relationship as being a possible indicator of me not being SLI, but i would like to hear about this relationship in general.

They did not feel any interest toward my inner life, as the feeling of estrangement and solitude felt alien to them, i think. When it did not involve deeds towards others, it was not worth considering. (in a broad sense)
Reflection on themselves never took place if not in relation to others, which alienated them from me. They had no interested in the ''nature'' of things if it didn't involve the quality of life for all. The ''great beyond'' has no place in their world because it is loneliness manifest.