Originally Posted by
Braingel
I also am wondering how much age can have in this.. Of course grown adults, like my mother who is nearing 50, can also be unhealthy (an ESE So2 who engages this behavior notoriously as already said). But I think older healthy Fe's will have more a grip on this.
I also really would like emphasize enneagram importance on this. As said already by me, a 4 thrives be very authentic. I see how it would be counter to my true nature to do such thing and try veer away from such behaviors whenver can, though it may be unavoidable if I really am triggered at the time, given my emotional state, but again, I never will act like they are "my best friend"; I will be neutral... If they are suddenly changed and are nice at time, I may be cordial, but that is unlikely.
He is an Sp/Sx or Sx/Sp 5w6 and is Ni subtype...
I think an IEI 2w3, or 6 core that is Fe sub and a social instinct, is the most probably kind of IEI who would shit talk and then act all buddy-buddy, the two-faced behavior.
I really think enneagram type 6's and the 3 and 2 are most prone to this behavior, especially social variances of such. 2 has hard time with boundaries and just wants express itself, but not unlike four, caring about authenticity. 3 just cares about advancing if unhealthy and also can be poor with boundary, especially a 3w2 over 3w4. And 6 as already explained, may feel pressured by community.
I know an IEI 5w6 that is older than I, who one time took offense to an IEE-Fi doing this behavior to him, and he publicly confronted her on my server about it. She shit talked him on one of my servers, and I defended his name and told people they should invite him, to which then that was when she shit talked him.
4 and 5 are some of the most authentic types. 4, 5 and 8 being the most such. 4 and 5 both are withdrawn. We do not really want to express as much, that is bold... Other than in four, our bold emotions.
I think enneagram is a bigger indicator for this behavior, especially if it is a type prone to such that is unhealthy/disintegrated. Enneagram being more a matter of behavior than how one attains information (as well as their core motives, for enneagram).