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falk I was in a similar situation some months ago; it didn't work out, in part because I pigeoholed the relationship even before knowing the person. Now I think it's unproductive to be like "I want to be FWB with you" before anything has happened, because it makes you act with this end in mind, makes you try to shape every interaction to fit this motivation; it makes you blind to what is happening/what could happen. Relationships don't work like that; they are messy and unpredictable. Even one night stands aren't based on some contract people sign beforehand; by labelling so I didn't allow myself to get to know the other person at all and I didn't allow things to happen naturally.
Labelling and coming up with expectations before even having any meaningful contact made me unable to connect in the first place. Maybe give yourself a chance to see this gal as more than just a side dish.
There is this saying "people only accept the love they think they deserve". As much as touching butts and smoking weed is satisfying, don't you think you deserve more ? That you deserve someone that would understand you and support you in your struggles? I know you said that you don't want more for now; but what I hear is that you're ready to settle for less than what most people deserve or aim for. I know you didn't ask for advice and that you're the only one to decide what you want to do. I don't even know if what I said applies to you. I just want to share things that helped me personally, hoping it will help you.