Duals are from opposite clubs. Their interests, what attracts them superficially, are different. I believe this is one reason why it can be so hard for duals to find each other.

Their differing interests coincide with their differing strengths. The value-sharing, I think, it what assists in the drawing together. Then they discover that the other is 1) aiming toward the same things they are and 2) great at handling things they don't like and aren't good at. And, voila, a partnership is born.

However, the differing interests still remain. This can lead to conflict, especially if one or both feel a sense of entitlement or ownership of the other. It seems that it's wise to allow for the differences and give each other space to pursue those in a way that doesn't harm the other. Communication and a secure attachment style help.


For me, Fe and Ni are "unvalued strengths." They are fun for me to play with when I want to relax or break out of routine or have some non-serious fun. I don't want too much, but I do find fulfillment in some amounts of it. Especially the Ni, which is really uncomfortable to an LSE. Same in reverse for the LSE - they "play" using Se. And that's ok. It's a dance that takes a little bit of effort, but the benefits of duality are worth it, imo.