What's your favorite instinct stacking?

[darya]

They are focused on the social world and will basically do what they need to to maintain their position and disregard close relationships or intense feelings. They are social but they struggle to actually get close to people. And many of them just have cold and haughty attitudes for some reason, even the ones on here (won't name unless you need the examples).

Stereotypically, I think of sx/so and so/sp as the "EIE" stackings - they're both social and intense but in different ways. Sx/so is the more raw, recklessly revolutionary kind and so/sp is like the ice cold queen who is too good to interact with the peasants. I think of so/sp as a paradox in many ways.

I agree. And sp/so has more of a earthy, every day guy, slightly matronly/patronly feel, which seems warmer and less aloof than so/sp.

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*poetically* 5w4... bridging the heart and the mind...

The gut center isn't too important among ILIs either.

Mh yeah, and they could use your assertion. Swapping souls through duality That happens with instincts as well: SP first teaches SP last quite a lot, much like SO second moderates SO last.

Yeah, I love hearing tips from @Starfall on things for example.

I agree. And sp/so has more of a earthy, every day guy, slightly matronly/patronly feel, which seems warmer and less aloof than so/sp.

Exactly.

Wouldn't that be more SP-first-like? EIE SO/SP does mingle, just in the circles profitable to them. It's still in charge there unless the aristocracy is really extreme. Through some reclusive type influence for instance. Though EIE was just an example to describe the spirit yeah.

No, sp first is just within themselves they don't normally exclude people on purpose unless it's an sp/sx who doesn't want to deal with someone's shit for practical reasons. So/sp is kind of excluding without even trying because it's just the nature of their instincts, compared to so/sx which has trouble excluding people and will often let people go too far with things.

[Chae]

Yeah, I love hearing tips from @Starfall on things for example.

No, sp first is just within themselves they don't normally exclude people on purpose unless it's an sp/sx who doesn't want to deal with someone's shit for practical reasons. So/sp is kind of excluding without even trying because it's just the nature of their instincts, compared to so/sx which has trouble excluding people and will often let people go too far with things.

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I would suggest SP/SX as the ice queen for that very reason: self-occupied and filtering people through SX: "too busy with myself to deal with peasantry (that I'm not even half aware of) - but this one's interesting, I like them. Gotta let them in for once, it helps my well-being". Take Harrison Ford as an example. I do see how they don't do it on purpose, but the ice is coming through you know, they come across like it. SO/SP's filter is their secondary instinct which stops what the social instinct first adapts to. Like the Hillary Clinton method. Yeah yeah smile at everything all social issues are important I advocate for you all I'm the beacon of society... but ba-boom, here is where I draw the line for myself. The exclusion doesn't occur until a certain point. SO/SX yes, that's precise.

[ashlesha]

I would suggest SP/SX as the ice queen for that very reason: self-occupied and filtering people through SX: "too busy with myself to deal with peasantry (that I'm not even half aware of) - but this one's interesting, I like them. Gotta let them in for once, it helps my well-being".

LOL at the accuracy. Even tho I don't feel icy inside or anything.

I can't answer the op's question because I don't type a lot of people's instincts, even with my inner circle I'm only guessing but if I'm right it seems I end up closer to other sp firsts statistically more often, for whatever reason.

[Chae]

LOL at the accuracy. Even tho I don't feel icy inside or anything.

I can't answer the op's question because I don't type a lot of people's instincts, even with my inner circle I'm only guessing but if I'm right it seems I end up closer to other sp firsts statistically more often, for whatever reason.

The icy effect is more on the outside for the general people (--> SO) who don't get through to SP/SX. That's why instinct compatibility puts SP/SX and SX/SO together, SX is so energetic and frankly quite obtrusive, it really brings the heat. And they melt through SP naturally, getting to the secondary SX or SP/SX with ease.

SP and SP go well together, both are extremely stable. The most durable relationships are usually between SP/SX and SP/SO. Your certainly plays a role as well, your affections don't just change in a volatile SX or SO way. So, it needs a secure bank, and what is more secure than self-preservation?

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I would suggest SP/SX as the ice queen for that very reason: self-occupied and filtering people through SX: "too busy with myself to deal with peasantry (that I'm not even half aware of) - but this one's interesting, I like them. Gotta let them in for once, it helps my well-being". Take Harrison Ford as an example. I do see how they don't do it on purpose, but the ice is coming through you know, they come across like it. SO/SP's filter is their secondary instinct which stops what the social instinct first adapts to. Like the Hillary Clinton method. Yeah yeah smile at everything all social issues are important I advocate for you all I'm the beacon of society... but ba-boom, here is where I draw the line for myself. The exclusion doesn't occur until a certain point. SO/SX yes, that's precise.

Yeah. It's also a matter of personal outlook as well, I'm sure some people would see sp/sx icier than others depending on how well they can take that type of person. I'm sure most people would find an so/sp more easy to deal with than an sp/sx, etc.

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I would suggest SP/SX as the ice queen for that very reason: self-occupied and filtering people through SX: "too busy with myself to deal with peasantry (that I'm not even half aware of) - but this one's interesting, I like them. Gotta let them in for once, it helps my well-being". Take Harrison Ford as an example. I do see how they don't do it on purpose, but the ice is coming through you know, they come across like it. SO/SP's filter is their secondary instinct which stops what the social instinct first adapts to. Like the Hillary Clinton method. Yeah yeah smile at everything all social issues are important I advocate for you all I'm the beacon of society... but ba-boom, here is where I draw the line for myself. The exclusion doesn't occur until a certain point. SO/SX yes, that's precise.

With me it depends with the exclusion thing.. I am not as well meaning as my mother who really seems to be including with everyone.. but my IEI so/sp friend seems to be fairer with people in general, more including.. everything seems very balanced.. problem is.. you don't feel any special feelings/positions which can be very hurtful when you thought you were closer but you are just treated like everyone else.. maybe even less well.

I've excluded people I really didn't like or who did something shitty to me. But Beta might be less chill about this stuff than Alpha.