INTj's beneficiary is ISTp, right? well, i'm in a pretty stable relationship with one. it started out as a typical benefactor/beneficiary relationship, but as we got closer, discovered that we have things to offer each other and it turned out to be more equal than expected - i guess otherwise known as 'fell in love'. perhaps the fact that he's male, and dominant, and also a bit older, helped to tip the balance to him than it otherwise would've. and he thinks the world of me, is completely open and vulnerable, which i somehow find endearing. as an INTj, i realise that i really need someone i trust completely, and never need to watch my back with.