Erotic Attitudes: the line between "Aggressor" and "Victim"

[reyn_til_runa]

ok it's a simple fact that a person usually blames the other person involved when the sex just isn't that great (maybe we don't do it out loud, but we do it in our heads) so now channel these criticisms into Gulenko's erotic attitudes.

I really think you should re-think this "simple fact". It is obviously true for you, and for other people, but not for everybody.

I have always blamed myself first followed by any external/internal conditions possibly influencing the sex. Usually if I blame myself it lingers a bit painfully just until I come up with something like "That was a REALLY small piece of plywood we were on...." Immediately, the bad sex is discounted and I feel better.

There seem to be limitless possibilities, and I'd always rather blame even the most remote conditional influence over a person.