Ways to ENFp's heart: how to woo/attract an IEE

[aka-kitsune]

Umm.. anyway, I think ENFps are pretty easy to approach if you talk to them first. They only SEEM cold to some people...

Well... I don't think he's *actually* cold... but I usually feel I need to be reassured that my approaches aren't unwelcome. I look for the other to occasionally seek me out. Is it typical that ENFp always tend to defer to the other to talk/initiate contact with them first?

Does this state ever reach a comfortable reciprocity??

[Slacker]

I often initiate contact with other people. But sometimes I hold back and observe them a bit first to get an idea of how they'll respond.

[ScarlettLux]

Y'all IEEs seem pretty reserved on first contact most of the time. It's a little disconcerting.

[aka-kitsune]

I often initiate contact with other people. But sometimes I hold back and observe them a bit first to get an idea of how they'll respond.

Well... we've been acquainted for quite a while now. But still haven't entirely broken the individual "personal contact" barrier. Honestly, I think I'm generally intimidated and I hold back out of fear of rejection. There's been lots of talk here about being "interesting" enough to hold an IEE's attention.

[xyz]

Well... we've been acquainted for quite a while now. But still haven't entirely broken the individual "personal contact" barrier. Honestly, I think I'm generally intimidated and I hold back out of fear of rejection. There's been lots of talk here about being "interesting" enough to hold an IEE's attention.

Stop thinking and just do it. Suck it up.

[aka-kitsune]

Stop thinking and just do it. Suck it up.

The Nike philosophy, eh...?

I think I may need Extravert Boot Camp for this mission...

[xyz]

The Nike philosophy, eh...?

I think I may need Extravert Boot Camp for this mission...

Yeah the Nike philosophy I mean honestly you can analyze all you want but unless you you ask in a direct way, how are you gonna know? Godspeed =]

[Topaz]

I love INFPs. If you're and INFP and you give an ENFP time to talk about just any ol thing and then share your insights and ideas it would be hard not to like you. ENFPs love to dive into all the stuff that most people look at them as strange for talking about. If you are receptive to that side of them they will form a bond with you. Im and ENFP and my oldest sister is INFP. Of all my siblings I visit her the most. We sit and talk about all kind of things for hours. I recommend movies or music and she does the same and then we compare notes. We talk about the people we know and classes we've taken or experiences we've had. Its all very interesting. I used to want an INFP gf/wife because I thought they would be the best match. Socionics says different but Im not so sure. I think INFPs are great to hang out with but when it comes to being productive, getting things accomplished I think ENFPs and INFPs together might run into some difficulties and frustrations. Anyway, if you really want to get to know and ENFP they are very approachable. If you can get him/her on a road trip with lots of driving and time to talk thats probably the best thing you can do to get them to open up.

PS. That goes for you ISTPs too