Now, do I expect you to change? No. I expect you to be true to your type, and right now you are. Do I expect you to see things my way? No, I don't expect that either. What I do expect is as follows. I understand that ESTp's have very different thinking patterns, views, beliefs, and different ways of running their lives than I do. I'm not going to try to impose my views/beliefs/standards on them because it's not them. Anybody who tries to do that is an idiot. If this is what my parents are trying to do to my sister then they're idiots. If that's true, I'd like to find out about it so that I can stop it and then maybe any resentment from my sister towards me and/or my parents will subside because there's clearly a rift. OTOH, it would be good if ESTps also understood that other people have very different views, beliefs, values, thinking patterns, and ways of running their lives than you do, and that you shouldn't judge them by that either.
I bet my sister looks at me in disgust. I found someone I loved early and settled down and married them, pursued a higher education, yadda yadda. My brother... he's such an idiot! Doesn't he want to get out there, meet tons of people, go everywhere, see things, do things, travel? Doesn't he want his "independence"? How could he NOT want this? He's STUPID!!!
My wife the SJ sees my sister just as I think my sister probably sees me.
OTOH, I simply see my sister living her life how she wants to. I understand that she's different and doesn't value the same things that I do. I don't expect her to live her life the way I choose to live mine. I'm an NT, I like learning things, we value education, I have two degrees. I wanted to just find someone and settle down, and it looks like I've lucked out and found a Dual to me and am very happy. I would not want any other woman on this planet except her, and I want her for life. I'm not adventurous, I don't want to travel all over, I'm not impulsive, I don't want to play the field with women. This may be you, but IT IS NOT ME.