I agree with Rocky that you don't sound like an ENFP:

highly social, maybe not highly highly social, but i like people okay. i need a lot of privacy and i hate people being in my business. reading the dual description sounds so much like our relationship because the whole thing is based on privacy et cetera.
ENFps aren't necessarily highly highly social, but they love people. Love them! And they approach them, too. Not all the time, but in their social moments. And because of that, an ENFp is not tactless and insensitive, not even when stressed and not even when they dislike them.