so it seems my mom is likely ENFj

[Joy]

Well, all I can say is that the evidence is contradictory.

To which evidence are you referring? Her absolute belief and blind faith in the cult-like manner in which I was raised?

[Creepy-bg]

I can see the resemblence (between you and her... not to any type)

BTW I meant that in the physical sense... not the description (just in case you'd take offense by that)

[Exodus]

Well, all I can say is that the evidence is contradictory.

To which evidence are you referring? Her absolute belief and blind faith in the cult-like manner in which I was raised?

That part is consistent with ISTj, as well as most of what you have said.

However, this part puzzles me:

Then on Easter I was talking to my sister in law about my mom. We were talking about how Easter was her "cheat day" from her diet, and my sister in law was like, "Whatever, everyday is her cheat day." I questioned this, and she said, "When I was living there she'd say that she was cheating on her diet, but she did it like 5 days a week. When I mentioned it to her she just got all quiet and stopped saying that." (That sounds like a Si PoLR hit to me. Confused) She's also a horrible cook... which I had assumed was because she was raised by alcoholics... and she has a very difficult time denying herself of anything that she decides she's hungry for, as I've described of a Si PoLR in the past. To summarize, she has no sense of what is appropriate or reasonable when it comes to Si matters.

As for my ISTj mother, she cheats on her diet only occasionally, and she is always open about it, and would not react in this way. I'm not sure what you described is necessarily indicative of an Si PoLR, though.

btw, what type is your sister-in-law?

[Kristiina]

I can see the resemblance between her and an ISTj, but not me and her.

[Joy]

btw, what type is your sister-in-law?

ISFj

I guess you'd have to meet her to understand just how Fe she is. Eh well, nm. Doesn't matter anyways.