Originally Posted by
DEAD
Yeah, I don't tolerate a lot of fools and stupid people now. I don't tolerate a lot of crap from them. I prefer to have my own company, do shit by myself and not have people interfere with my shit. I get easily annoyed when people start to interfere with things.
But yeah, I try to compromise but avoid him as much as I can. My Dad tries to be controlling in a way, but I stand up for myself. He tries to find ways to squeeze more money out of me, and I refuse to let him do that. I need to save up as much as I can, I need to have a headstart on things. He's got worse in the last ten years, and he was less severe before. He thinks that he can "judge people", like God. He can't do that. He is just a dumb human, like the rest of us, by that line of thinking. He just rambles, and a lot of it doesn't make sense.
Compromising is becoming harder with him. He seems to be becoming needier, and he doesn't have to be needier. He has what he needs to survive, just about. He thinks that his job he does is "ethical", but he needs to make more money from it. He needs to market himself more, and be more visible to make more money. If you try and tell him that, he thinks it's compromising, in a way. But you gotta compromise your vision for cash at times. You have to be ruthless if you want to make money in your own business like that.
But yeah, it sucks that your Mom was like that. But I understand why you had to compromise like that. I don't think that my Dad is quite that. He wasn't this bad when I was growing up, but over time he has become almost unbearable. He's getting more difficult with each pasing year to tolerate. There was only so much you could realistically do as a kid, and things are supposed to be getting better in the system, but I don't know. Are there more resources available? Yes, because of the digital age, I agree with that viewpoint.
Yeah, he is. But he knows that if he loses me, he's gonna be more screwed because I give him some form of supplementary "rent" to help pay bills that's a lot cheaper than renting a single one or two bedroom place. I understand the logic behind it, but like I said, it's getting harder to tolerate him. If I had enough money, I'd be out no problem. I'm willing to leave, but not able to leave which is annoying.
My Dad's too easily annoyed. He thinks everything is "demonic" and keeps forcing his opinions onto us. He keeps trying to save money, and saying that we're going to be judged for going to certain companies. It's impossible to avoid companies, realistically. He has so many opinions on companies and what they sponsor, but you can't actually avoid most of them. If that's his logic, then we shouldn't be wearing any clothes. We should be walking around naked, starving. You can't boycott everything. That's ridiculous. There is always going to be some underhanded "evil" (in his words) with companies. Is there a "lesser than two evils"? Yes, but there is always gonna be corporate greed, regardless of the governmental system put in place. Can it be distributed differently? Yes, it can be.
I probably should sit him down, but it's hard to do that. He's busy too. I should arrange something like what I said below to Expansion, but I don't know when I'll be able to do that. His routine is very spontaneous. Maybe I should ask him.
I was thinking of making a document, with some pointers to present to him. Add some proof, and some pointers for a plan and he might actually listen. He is very dependent on the Te, over the Ti. He likes things to be thought out, and straightforward from what I've observed of him over the past 28 years.
It's very difficult to avoid confrontation. It's in my nature to be quite confrontational, and stand-offish. I'm very independent, too. I'm just living there cause I am broke, and it's too expensive for a single person to just move into something. It's a rip-off. I'm still searching for something cheap somewhere. It's honestly not worth it to actually live alone, even in a small place, unless you find roomates, but that defeats the purpose of "living alone", doesn't it?
There is an option to get government funding, somewhat, but it's not always approved. I think you have to meet certain criteria, and you also need to have found a council house. There are certain ways to get around it, though, but you need to show proof. I think that it needs to be when he's clear-minded, so earlier in the day. You need to think about the things you're gonna say as well.