Originally Posted by
loopyclouds
I’m EII and my conflictor SLE is soo attractive and seeing him walk into the room always makes my heart race - as if I’m hyper aware of his presence, and it seems that he feels the same way about me. When asked about his ideal type, the SLE interestingly and somewhat surprisingly said he feels attracted to girls who are “intellectual” and whom he can engage in “deep” conversation with. But then he’ll suddenly say something to me that is so painful, making me feel hurt and ruminate on it for a long time afterwards.
Two examples from two different conflictors. First example, SLE offers to drive me home and moves towards his car. I’m still putting on my shoes at my own, somewhat slow, pace. He looks frustrated and groans, telling me to hurry up and just put them on in the car instead. A harmless and reasonable request but something about the sharpness of it hurts me. Perhaps it was intended to mobilize his inert dual IEI, with an Se boost.
Second example, in a group setting with several people including LSE, another SLE and EIE. The three are engaging in a somewhat heated conversation, hurling insults at each other, particularly the EIE at the LSE. Later on, I tell the LSE and SLE that I felt deeply uncomfortable during the situation. LSE shows me concern. SLE tells me “It’s called BANTER.” Again, an innocuous statement but the correction was very painful to me.