i decided to post this in the politics forum, since LGBTQIA things are extremely politicized.
i have a cousin who had a crush on leonardo dicaprio when she was a kid and then she had a biological kid and wanted to get married to the father but he wouldn't commit and then within a 13 years later she started dating, fell in love with a woman (around the time people started becoming gay) and she's been in love with her ever since then. she admits to being homosexual, so there's sexuality in the relationship, so you can change your sexuality. close to half of americans now say they're born that way, but the ones who say that are wrong.
she's almost never followed social norms (maybe she intended to always go against them) and never felt bad about it, so that's more evidence that she didn't just keep it hidden for her own image.