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What do you guys think of alphas?
the alpha quadra. what do you think of them? every time ive taken a socionics test ive gotten INTj and everytime ive taken an mbti test when i wasnt cheating i got INTP. I like an INFj. but i like her from afar. and im not ready to date at the moment, even if it was casually but i prefer something more traditional, which is why im waiting on this woman to finish her college and for me to have some money and maturity. also, ps, any tips from INFjs on how to win their heart? im a guy asking about a girl. also, general advice from other deltas will do. EDIT: she lives far away in another state.
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back for the time being
waiting's a tough gamble imo. who knows what could happen in the meantime, other factors (competing suitors...), and if that trajectory of stabilty/growth even comes to be at all. it's already complicated enough with the long distance.
if you don't like this person in their current way of life and fall in love with potential/the future instead, that might be a castle of glass. money helps, though don't treat her and yourself like some projects that need certain properties, accolades, and improvements, it's simply insecure and not reality-based.
if you can sustain it now together without the resources and proximity, it will be easier later. you'll wish you would have said hi back then, most likely. it subtracts from time and "combining forces" together, that is if the relationship is mutual. it all takes time to build anyway, unless it's crash and burn. but normally, it will work itself up either way.
and as for opinions on alpha, they're high energy! i like that, next to how cozy and non-confrontational they prefer to be.
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Harmless, hopeful, mostly good things. But ultimately unsatisfying to me. Although IRL I would never tell. But it might bleed out for them to see, as it does with anything inside us, maybe in my drifting away, physically and psychologically, micro-disapointments?
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Good human beings, democratic, like all the democratic quadras. Less poltical interactions
I've definitely considered I am one over the years.
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They're goofy, but funny. Imagine, their best ethicist is LII, and their best logician is ESE!
In general, it is perceived as a place where you would like to go on vacation. It is more relaxed, simpler and clearer, more sincere, but in the end it still gets boring and you want to go home.
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You are waiting for her specifically? Why do you assume she is waiting for you too and won't go out with a guy who is ready to take her out now?
If you really want to take her specifically out, do it now, you Can't expect her and the world to wait for you. If it is not her specifically but yourself being ready then that is a different thing.
You don't need to be perfectly prepared and have all the money before you date btw, people can grow and build their lives together.
I like Alpha quadra. The ESE's have always been lovely in my Experience and fun folk. Protective. The ILEs besides my crazy ex seem a funny and well meaning bunch. I haven't met manu LIIs or whom I would assume to be LIIs tho.
Alpha is probably the second quadra besides my own that I tend to get along with best.
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It only hurts when you get too close but that's also pretty much everyone so it's ok. It's kinda amusing when Alpha SFs unconsciously(?) do or mention things that are very me sometimes lol it's like seeing a small shadow me in them. I think they do that because they naturally accommodate and they seem to absorb other people's quirks easily. They seem to mirror everyone
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Minus ESE, I get along great with them. Most of what I will say is negative, but consider it as the primary thing that holds it back from being fantastic.
LII- I usually laugh when they burn down a relationship because of how things "should be", I can't count how many times the 2 LII I know have gone ballistic karen on businesses. My LII relative gets on a high horse being the most right, then turns around and shows me all the card info he's collected from the family. It genuinely blows my mind sometimes that they are in fact, LII. I've countlessly reassessed these people and I'm absolutely sure my 2 LII are defective and cannot represent the totality of the LII breed.
ILE - I understand relations of supervision can be rough, so I do my best to be accommodating. usually the only times I have issues is when they give someone info who doesn't have the right clearance, but I let it slide if it's not too important
SEI - very fun, can goof with, and go full smarta**. As long as it stays equal, I'm usually fine. The 2 SEI I've got breath down my neck to do stuff, and so I minimize my exposure so I don't get worn out.
ESE - ive met some who made me wonder whether mirage relationship would be good, but I walk into the work office and my coworker exhaled and I'm 90% sure she exhaled just to piss me off. Basic conversation is insufferable, unteachable, nothing I say ever makes sense. What's worse is this ESE deliberately throws fire into the flames. I do my best but its really hard to get along. As long as we're hanging out, it's very pleasant.
Last edited by Warmpolar; 10-15-2023 at 10:56 PM.
Reason: Small typo
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Alphas are cute. Sometimes I cook and pull weeds for one that's a senior citizen. There was an SEI guy I liked, but it turned out he secretly had a girlfriend already. C'est la vie.
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