Originally Posted by
FreelancePoliceman
I think parents and children should live mostly separate lives. Obviously the parent should take care of the child, make sure he's doing well, even talk with and have fun with him sometimes. But the child should have his own life. You don't HAVE to know every detail of your child's or spouse's or whoever's life, and you shouldn't. The only way to possibly care so much about their life is to not have one yourself. I think most of the behavior the article is criticizing is parents (namely mothers) using their kids as personal immortality projects, and that has bad consequences for the kids. I think it's also getting more common.
OTOH schools have been getting shittier and I think it's reasonable to be concerned about what their kids are and aren't learning. But at some point you have to decide boundaries, where you're going to stop caring. You either trust the school system or you don't.