Alpha NTs: the real trouble.
A short thread to address newcomers. It looks like at least a number of newcomers consider Alpha SF as a typing for themselves. So, let's go into that option...
For all the talk about Se and Ni, the closest you will get to spousal abuse and gender inequality, as understood generally, is in Alpha quadra.
NT's childlike interaction style is not a demonstration of quirky neediness but of grown-up selfishness.
Alpha NTs tend to be more apt at whatever concerns the more technical side of life, but with unbending self-perceived privilege to not care nor take charge or at least share responsibility (not without some major teeth grinding, at least) of their everyday needs. It goes against their programming. They will raise a scandal if you try to reprogram them. Violence is not excluded. Not slaving away after them, making them responsible for their physical well-being and their environment, feels like an attack on your part. They will make you, the corrector, the one at fault.
When you consider that last bit I wrote, then it’s useful when thinking of Alpha NTs it’s easier to have something like this extreme case in mind:
Meet Dennis and Nelson. They fix cars and are really good at tinkering with engines and components. They won't be bother to do sh!t at home and have never considered that to be exploitation of the rest of their family and, particularly, their wives. From time to time they show a side similar to that of children that are unable to focus on important, adult stuff, like placing too much importance on the fact that the food they're served is not quite to their linking or getting inexplicable emotions that show they're somewhat still stuck in childhood. Kings of “Oh, I don't know how to do that” when it’s required to do simple tasks like learning to operate a washing machine or microwave. But in the line and the delivery some degree of manipulation can be perceived.
Now, that's not to say that an LII young girl brought up in the city is going to reject college education in favor of something akin to the photo above. But, still, there's a clear ‘atmosphere’ that you would get if you put a sizable amount of Alphas in a community.
With all that said, when one is considering an Alpha SF self-typing then maybe it's good to ask oneself:
-do I think people doing what's described here is normal or understandable?
- have I been in relationships with people that behaved like this and did I get exasperated at some point or the fact that they provided me with clear analysis of situations regarding what to fix in my house and how, commentary on technical situations or how to proceed in some task significantly more important?
- am I scandalized that people can behave like this with no sign of consideration towards others?
A negative reaction could indicate that an Alpha SF typing is not possible.