Originally Posted by
Alive
I've been occasionally thinking about this definition of aggressor romance style because I've observed quite a lot of victim types going the route of "ask a 100 girls out and a couple of them will say yes" which on the surface seems like aggressor behaviour but it doesn't fit. I think some intuitives are confident enough to make direct advances, but for the aggressor type, the interest is really blunt and concrete, while for an intuitive type they often reflect in the back of their head "is the person really right for me? Does it work long term?" Or "is she/he even that interesting"? just lots of reflections that make both partners if they are intuitive very sceptical of the relation. Aggressors are really a bit weird, just a week or so ago I had an older SLE coworker tell a rape joke to an SLI female worker and even with my stupid Fi I noticed how dumb that was. Agressor types just often aren't very subtle and they end up hitting on people when it is really inappropriate to do so and I dunno maybe the way our society currently works is not right for that behaviour but then I wonder when/if it ever is. There's some inherent violent aspect to extroverted sensing which the current society tries to surpress but it just leads to mental diseases due to a complete absence of mentorship and authority. It's easy to imagine that all of this nonsense comes to a halt and a type like SLE comes in with an 'eat or die, no excuses' attitude to get at least a bit of structure back. Maybe I'm wrong though considering that russia is a dying empire.