IEE and SLI initial dualization (I hate being in love)

[BrainlessSquid]

Hello. So, as the title infers, I'd like to know more about the IEE and SLI dualization process.

After some years reading up on Socionics, some months ago I came to the conclusion that I'm an SLI of the Te subtype, since it's the type that best fits my overall behavior. As of right now, I am in the earliest stages of the whole "falling in love" thing with a girl I met at college, who's also in all of the same classes as I am (we're both majoring in psychology), and let's just say that you couldn't spot a more obvious IEE in the wild even if you were trying to. She's scattered, indecisive, pays no mind to some pretty obvious social cues (such as not putting your hands inside your pants while deep in thought), and is overall a very cheerful but kind of naive person. Don't get me wrong though, all of these traits make me swoon hard for her, in ways I can't even begin to describe.

But anyways, back to the main point. We've become friends over a month ago, right before our first class together started, and over a week later, after pondering on it for a while, I realized that I really enjoyed her company, to the point that I might say that I've fell in love. Thing is, she either doesn't realize it despite my obvious advances and attempts at flirting with her, or she is really good at hiding the fact that she does realize but just doesn't mind, and I don't know what to make of it. She seems weirdly comfortable with physical contact, to the point of it, honestly, creeping me out. I won't go into too much detail, but I can tell with certainty that she's let me touch certain parts of her body that even some of my past partners took months to even think of letting me. However, as is with IEEs (from what I've read), most of these consentments are non-verbal, which basically means that she lets me do whatever I want with her as long as I don't ask about it. I've touched, tickled, and caressed her in places that should raise at least a couple of flags in regards to my interest in her, yet she doesn't even look bothered by it at all, and this keeps bugging me to no end.

Another thing I noticed is that, despite me openly showing interest in what she likes, she avoids talking about her interests with me the most out of our friend group. She turns to one of our other female friends (whom I honestly can't really infer the type, but anyways) and talks her ear off about the K-Pop bands she likes and whatnot, but when I ask about it (even if it's just an excuse to get to talk more with her), she usually just dismisses it with a quick explanation, without as much enthusiasm when talking about it as she just had. When we're in social settings with multiple people, she treats me normally, but whenever I have the time and offer her company when she's alone, she says I shouldn't mind her.


Now, I know in parts how IEEs dualize. From what I understand, it's a test of patience, where the IEE won't commit to anyone, because they want to win everyone over, and not ever be left alone should the need for company arise. What I don't get, however, is how their romantic interest is made clear, and I don't mean that in the traditional sense. I'm not expecting her to come to me and set boundaries (and, honestly, I'd hate that), but rather, I want to know which telltale signs I should be looking for that mean things are going smoothly or not, which things she does or says that allow me to have a good grasp on her understanding of our current relationship. I know IEEs are prone to fluctuate a lot in what they feel about things and people, and no way in hell I'm expecting any form of consistent response from her, but I'd like to know what I should be expecting and looking out for, to even know if she's interested in the first place.


Also, I don't know how much of this matters, but I'm also a girl, and both me and the girl I'm talking about are both bi, just in case same gender relationships influence dualization in any way.

I'm also an IEE (male) and I've been in a similar situation, where the person was giving obvious signs of interest, and I just pretended I didn't see them. In my case, if the girl gets touchy I let her do that and I like it, but the more someone shows constant interest the less I feel challenged to pursue a relationship with them.
My interests in someone fluctuate a lot depending on how my intuition sees potential for partnership, and there's a difference between a fling, a friend, and a life partner. So if you just show interest, it doesn't really mean much unless you give hints of what it is you want from me.
Of course you can advance in the area of the senses, touching, being caring, because I don't feel confident to do that. But in my experience, touching is just a sign of attraction, and not necessarily love or a simple crush. So I let all types of women do the touching and that doesn't make me feel like they love me or anything.

Another point, intuitives may despise people who have sensing as dominant function, personal experience, and only value the relation after it's gone.

So my tip for you is offer help where you see the other person is having difficulties, and then back off (but be discrete about it, actually just give them space and time)
Always give them something related to your strengths and then take it away, or give them time and space, so they can miss you before you actually go away.

The most plausible possibility is that thia person is not dualized or has not met their duals yet and probably they don't know how much they can enjoy your company, they may not be in touch with their inferior function yet, which is common in college.

There was a girl who did pretty much what you are doing now, and I just considered her nothing. I never appreciated her. Then after a long time, and a lot of exposure and I realized how much I liked her and how much she was important.

So be patient, give her time and space, be more of a challenge, offer useful service, and keep being touchy (that definitely helps)

My SEE in this profile is just for me to throw away stupidities without being questioned