ILIs ghosting me
So I met two ILIs that are bisexual on a dating site and they were enthusiastic about having a MMF relationship saying it is a dream come true, but now they are completely silent and I'm LII and maybe I off putted them with Fe or something, I didn't think I was overly Fe or whatever, but you guys are weird. Totally into it a moment then completely silent the next, and we haven't even met yet. I was also wondering how to best conduct myself on a first date with ILIs.
Crickets
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I feel like I totally made a fool of myself to them. I told them I got birth control and an STD check. I said, "Happy Valentine's day guys, almost forgot", I told them about my life and showed them my art. Two whole days of nothing. At least give me a heads up. I thought you guys were like loyal and long range thinkers. I mean, they should be old enough to be at least a little self actualized and use their Se to try to live in the moment. Seriously feel stupid for talking to them.
The ILI that talks more than the other one who is still learning English won't have his kids around after wednesday because he has them 50% of the time. So he might message me tomorrow. And I'll probably get all excited and happy again. lol Especially if he has a good excuse for being unable to text message me back sooner.
> maybe I off putted them with Fe or something
You could be worse than an alternative in different, besides types related.
While weak and below average showing and processing functions are 4 pcs, not one.
> I was also wondering how to best conduct myself on a first date with ILIs
Communication with more differing types is more useful, interesting.
Though, your own type can be not as you think and types of not well-known people have significant risk to be other too.
typing thread here
We all agreed to get an STD check, but it seems like I got mine first before them.Originally Posted by one
If they message me, I won't message back right away then.
Hm what makes you think that they’re ILI before you’ve even met them?
Because they tested as one and they told me and it does seem to fit with the way they communicate. They are both definitely introverted scientific types.
So the quieter one that is still learning English has messaged me and said the other one is probably just busy with his kids, so that's a pretty good excuse I guess. I sent him a pic of my boobs and stuff because I had sent one previously but I wanted to take a better one with better lighting. So I feel better and less stupid now. Even though I guess I am acting foolish, but it's pretty fun.
Funny and fitting but also technically incorrect. "Smart" people act smartly regardless of personality type and the like. There is, for example, a good reason why Rob Halford is still alive as of this post and Freddie Mercury isn't. The former cared about things like sexual history and using condoms during a period of time that a certain disease was ravaging the community they both belonged to and the latter didn't.
Logic and reason aren't the sole domain of/
valuing personalities. It's just that they tend to focus on it way more than the
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types.
Though in keeping with this threads central theme I'll say this. If you're getting ghosted you're dealing with Anxious Attachment more often than not. The dismissives will ghost you for a time but then resume love bombing you when it looks like you're about to move on. Anxious types, on the other hand, will hit a point where they think that you've gotten too close and found the thing they were desperately trying to hide that made them utterly and categorailly unlovable.
Rather than hear the spiel about that and endure the immense pain that'd result from hearing a categorical rejection from someone they truly loved and thought actually loved them back (especially if they truly did) they just bail. Funny enough this is pretty much what happens when a soul is damned to hell according to Catholic Doctrine. Random thought but hey I think it's constructive so I'll throw it out there.
I have disorganized fearful avoidant attachment style thank you very much. They were just busy with getting job offers and kids. It's quite fitting for my type to do these things, it helps me be more self actualized by developing my Ne and Fe cognitive functions, letting them experience as much as possible from what the world has to offer, then it feeding my Ti to a healthier state, more well rounded.
I'm very familiar with those passages in the Bible, thank you for finding it funny. But don't judge me, lest ye be judged. You are just damning yourself by doing so.
They're just busy and will get STD checked later but soon. They were the ones that brought up getting STD checked first. I just thought it a good idea.
What the- whoah. Like a MMF 'throuple' situation?
It seems to me that the female wouldn't like that at all and it would always want one of the males to just be alpha male str8 man like with her and the other dude to just go away. I could be wrong, but I highly doubt it.
I think if I tried this with a guy and a girl me and the dude would predictably just gay out with each other while completely ignoring the female and pretending like she isn't even there lol. =/ /shrug. Jason Ridge used to do bisexual porn but he seems much better at the gay male stuff.
I had tons of girls wanting to do me + another girl, but when I suggested fucking me + another guy, max I got was "I want two of you"
And a straight dude friend of mine wanted to double team a girl and I figured he just wanted to use me for attracting better talent.
You should probably stay away.
Fe suggestive can make you succeptible to manipulation, as bad intentioned "feelers" can appear to be someone they're not. I'm not saying this is 100% the case here but you should look for more clues rather than just "how they communicate" to make a judgement about their character.
Fractals is not LII
https://www.the16types.info/vbulleti...ung-s-subjects
Why are you attempting relationships with ILIs instead of alpha SFs ?
Then, the angel asked her what her name was. She said: "I have none"
They're both not completely bisexual as they have only given each other blow jobs and had no anal sex nor does one of them ever want anal sex. They both said it was a long time fantasy of theirs to do MMF relationship, and they mean it long term and not just a one time thing as they are both demisexuals as well. No red flags yet, I thought there was one, but they were seriously just very busy with kids and job offers. They seem very enthusiastic and want to include all parties during the love making, as we have texted about it on the phone, about how we want it done. No one is getting left out, and I will make an effort to give them both equal attention because I really do like them both.
Guys, ESFJ guys are hard to spot. I dated an older man who was ESFJ and it did go really well. But I think this relationship can work out well too.
Fractals is IEI! big surprise
I'm also bisexual myself and would bring in another girl if I could but girls are weird.
What if they were "completely bisexual" but just didn't like anal sex? It goes against mainstream thinking but there are tons of gay and bi men who don't like doing butt stuff with other males. I myself only enjoy it once in a blue moon. It's usually not that sexy at all unless the person has a very good body + is very hygienic down there + knows what he's doing + has a good enough physical presence etc.
If the guys are demisexual, I assume you are aware that they must develop some sort of feelings towards you before they can engage in sexual realations (if they really are demisexual).
Then, the angel asked her what her name was. She said: "I have none"
Not sure if they're demisexual in the truest sense. It's like they developed feelings for me pretty quickly and want me asap.
They want me to blow them really hard, then have G fuck me, then have G cum in T's mouth, then he will put G's cum from his mouth to mine and I swallow. Maybe T will fuck me too, or I can keep on deep throating him until he cums in my mouth and I swallow. Key here is I swallow both their cum somehow. I'm really looking forward to having them both stand above me, and me on my knees, feeling both their cocks in my mouth at the same time. Then having them sword fight and kiss in front of me. It's quite a nice scenario, MMF should work out better than you guys think it will. I'd be happy to even just do it once, say it doesn't continue on for the long term. But they said they wouldn't proceed unless it was an ongoing thing. So I might get two boyfriends at the same time guys and it's exciting for me. But our first interactions while we eat at this sushi restaurant have to go well, then we're going straight to my place. I've got toothbrushes ready in case they feel weird about kissing right after they eat. I have alcohol ready. Guys, you don't know how cute my inferior Fe is in person, guys find me adorable.
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